I don't care about what you do or where you come from. All that matters is that in your eyes, I'm equal.
Someone who walks into my life like a knight in shining armor, someone who shows their masculinity or how strong they are, someone who takes care of me by rushing to do everything for me, that's exactly the kind of partner I DON'T want.
It doesn't matter to me where my future partner comes from, what they look like or how much money they have in their bank account. I just want someone to love me for who I am and give me the same respect that I'm willing to give them.
It is not your money that will comfort me when I feel lonely. It is not the expensive gifts you give me that will make me feel safe when in my moment of doubt. It's your kindness and your love for me. I am perfectly capable of financing myself.
Before she passed away, my mother told me the most important lesson and I vividly remember the exact words. "Don't wait for people to come and give you the things you want in life. Go after it yourself," she said. So I went after it myself. And I knew that I didn't need a partner to have a safety net or a ladder to success.
I want someone who doesn't try to change me. I'm not going to be a "kept woman" because I do the keeping for myself. I work hard and I'm finally at a place where I can say I'm happy. So if I let you walk into my life, I hope you'll be able to respect my independence and freedom. I built my resilience the hard way. And now I'm not willing to let someone else take away that independence that I hold so dear to me. I have learned that people will respect me as long as I respect myself. The one thing I am willing to do now is to surround myself with people who accept me for who I am.
I don't need someone who will spoil me with jewelry or luxuries, fancy cars or clothes. If you want to spoil me and show me your love, give me the same loyalty and honesty that I give you. Love me for who I am without wanting to change me. Look past my wardrobe and my makeup and explore the person underneath it all.
All I want my future partner to understand is that I don't need you to put a roof over my head. Treat me as an equal and I'll give you my heart for the rest of my life. I want our relationship to be built on trust, where we both take responsibility in the relationship and meet each other halfway.
I promise you that not only am I strong enough to stand up for myself, but I will always stand up for you as well. While some people might want a partner who is established, well-settled and has all the financial security in the world, I don't worry about any of that. If you're trying to fulfill your dreams, we can fulfill them together. If you're struggling, we can struggle together. We can build our own world of success and happiness, and fill it with all the love we both need and more.
As long as I know you're a person with your own dreams and you'll put in the hard work to make them come true, I know you'll put the same effort into our relationship.
And while we both continue moving forward together, I will always know that you have me and I have you to lean on. When tears fall, we will have each other to listen. And no matter how hard we fall, we will pick each other back on our feet.