The OP's husband kept on telling her that she was the one "overreacting" and that the "poor girl" couldn't have waited and let the milk stain her clothes.
What are the guidelines you would want your babysitter to adhere to? What would be one's reaction if the person finds out that the limits set have been breached? A woman took to the subreddit, AITA, to ask if she was wrong to argue with her Babysitter for taking a shower in her house without her consent. The OP, u/throwaway6477764 writes, "I hired a babysitter for my 5 and 3-year-old kids 2 weeks ago. My husband works shifts while I work long hours at a marketing company." She then says that until now she had faced no issues with the babysitter, " I came home at 6 pm and noticed the babysitter's wet hair and new clothes.
She told me she took a shower after one of the kids spilled milk on her. I was confused but visibly upset but she tried to "reassure" me the kids were fine because my husband watched them while she took her shower which only lasted for a few minutes. "
She goes on to write how she was confused upon finding out that her husband was home, she continues, "We argued and my husband heard the commotion and got involved. He said it was not as big of a deal as I was making it out to be but I told the babysitter that I did not appreciate how she basically ignored how I felt about this and dismissed my feelings still. She went home, but we still argued on the phone. She thinks she's done nothing wrong and said I was being unfair when I mentioned potentially cutting from her salary after that."
"I was more confused that my husband was home when he had a shift to cover. I told her I didn't think it was appropriate for her to shower in my home like that. She argued that it was fine and that she had no choice and couldn't leave the milk on her like that."
The OP's husband kept on telling her that she was the one "overreacting" and that the "poor girl" couldn't have waited and let the milk stain sit on her clothes. She goes on to ask the community if she is actually overreacting, the community had lots to say, but the unanimous conclusion was that the problem lies somewhere else, and the shower had nothing to do with it.
One user wrote, "You hired a babysitter. Your husband was at home when he was supposed to be working. The babysitter went to clean up. I'm seeing a potentially bigger problem here, OP..." another user commented, The problem is with her husband - not the babysitter. If a 24-year-old woman being alone with your man, let alone taking a shower while he's in the house gives you the collywobbles - just own it. Talk about your very real fears and deal with that part of marriage. Get a new babysitter even. That I can understand. Just don't dance around the subject. Meet that crap head-on."
Another user added, "You’ll be lucky if she ever comes back, and if she does, count your lucky stars, apologize profusely and check in with yourself on why this made you so irrationally angry - my guess is, you don’t trust your husband."
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