The 19-year-old shifted to a dorm room the day she found out, and the mother-daughter duo has grown distant since.
Dating is often inherently a complicated subject to talk about with parents for most of us. On top of that, when parents get involved in unusual ways in your dating life, things can get tricky, or even ugly quickly. One such 19-year-old took to the Reddit community to share her experience with her mom who became a part of her equation with her boyfriend in an unusual way. A Reddit user u/riassma shared the story of her falling out with her mother. In this case, though, the matter of concern was not her own dating life, but her mother's. Talking about her boyfriend, she wrote, "So me(F19) and my boyfriend (M20) have been dating for 4 years now, he was in 10th grade and I was in 9th when we got together. My parents and he always knew about our relationship. We actually lived near each other when we were younger and went to the same kindergarten."
Then she went on to talk about both her and her boyfriend's parents. "Now, his father was a single father for a long time and my parents got divorced 3 years ago. Three weeks ago I got home(since the university is in the same city I still live with her) and I saw my mom and his dad kissing." Undoubtedly, she was taken aback. "I immediately called my boyfriend and he came over. We got into this huge fight with them, they started talking about marriage....the same day I requested to get a room in a dorm. And since then I haven't talked to her up until family dinner. While everyone was eating my aunt asked why my mom and I aren't talking, so I told them everything. "Well maybe if she wasn't f**king my boyfriend's father, who is apparently going to be my brother's father soon I would talk to her." And maybe I was harsh on her but I was really hurt. My mom got all red and embarrassed and started shouting about how our love is just young and why she should ruin her love life because we kids think it's going to last... I started crying, shouting at my mom, and left. My grandmother called saying how cruel I am. Literally, somehow everyone is siding with my mom except my cousin."
"Was I too cruel?" She asked the community, seeking advice on what she should do in this peculiar situation. Naturally, a lot of responses poured in. Some comments pointed out the obvious awkwardness in the matter. "There's something inherently disturbing about your significant other suddenly becoming your legal (step)sibling. Of course, OP is pissed," read one comment.
Other comments blatantly noted the plain facts in the situation; how both she and her mother's relationship do not have to impact each other so much. "A stepbrother that you were dating before their parents got married, what changed? Her mom's last name? A piece of paper now says that you’re two families are now one? They’re not related at all, it’s a weird situation sure, but her mom deserves to be with someone who makes her happy just as much as her 19-year-old daughter does."
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