"I think maybe because it was petty and bad timing but I was tired of not being helped," she wrote on Reddit.
Household chores can get too much especially when it becomes one person's responsibility. A 36-year-old woman on Reddit asked if she was wrong for "going on strike" and refusing to clean until my kids and husband step up to help?" For two years, she did all the chores at home. "Up until about 2 years ago my kids all had chores that they did daily but of course with them getting older, it became more of a chore for me when trying to get them to do anything to help me out so I stopped asking. So, that's what makes me an AH, I think," she wrote.
Her husband was then 38 years old and she had three children who were 15, 14, and 11 years old. She said that her husband "hardly ever lifts a finger when it comes to housework". However, earlier he used to cook, clean, and even take out the trash. Things got worse when she returned from a business trip and her house was in shambles. "So, I hit a breaking point one day when I came home after a weekend business trip with work to a completely in shambles house. There were dirty dishes scattered and placed in various corners of my home, trash wasn't taken out, laundry was spewing over the top of our hamper, toothpaste lining the sink, etc. You get the point," the woman wrote.
Instead of cleaning, she decided to grab herself a nice tall glass of Crown Royal and decided to sit and do nothing. When the husband and the children returned home, they were shocked. "My husband and kids returned home a few hrs later and I chuckled to myself as they stop dead in the doorway, look at the mess, and then back at me. My husband says 'Hunny, I have my boss coming for dinner tonight. Did you forget?' So I said, 'Nope, what are you making for dinner?'"
He soon realized what was going on and decided to start cooking. But her daughter got upset. "How am I supposed to have my boyfriend come over to a house looking like this?" So I said 'Hmm, good question. Maybe you should cancel.'" But her oldest son decided to do the right thing. "My oldest son (bless his heart) said 'Melanie, we can easily clean the house. It's obvious that mum needs a break," she wrote.
However, it was too late and both her husband's boss and daughter's boyfriend saw the real condition of the house. "My daughter's boyfriend also saw the house in shambles and looked disgusted. My daughter started crying and saying I embarrassed her and she will never forgive me." The woman concluded, "AITA? I think maybe because it was petty and bad timing but I was tired of not being helped."
People on Reddit were supportive of her move. A Reddit user commented, "NTA - cleaning the house isn’t as simple as bippity boppity done. They knew people were coming over and you were gone all weekend. How is it fair for the one person who’s been gone to come home and clean up after the other three who could’ve been keeping up on themselves? AND cook for an important guest? You def need to have a chat with them about personal responsibility and self-awareness." Many were unhappy with the daughter as she didn't learn her lesson. A user wrote, "At least op's husband and son seem to have grasped the issue and tried to do something. But I can't believe op's daughter's reaction! What a brat!"
Some users were upset that the family didn't clean up while she was away on a business trip. "They already know the house is a wreck though, THEY’RE the ones who made it a wreck. So they should have planned to clean it, especially if the husband knew his boss was coming over, but they didn’t because they thought they could just put it all on OP," commented a user. However, some even thought that this was not the "perfect timing" to raise the issue and the woman was passive-aggressive. They commented that she could have directly communicated it to them. Few people defended her saying that she might have raised the issue earlier and they might not have paid heed to her.
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