She said her husband and mother-in-law disrespected her and also labeled her disrespectful.
Actions speak louder than words. So if your partner /family members repeatedly show you what they actually are, you should believe them. Yes, it is tricky to welcome your children's spouses as family, but nothing justifies disrespecting them. A woman took to Reddit to share one such incident when her husband and mother-in-law disrespected her in front of all the guests, and then in turn held her guilty for creating a scene.
The user u/Throwawaydinner344 wrote " I'll start this off by saying that I, f32 have been with my husband Bob, m39 for 3 years, married for one. His mom has a habit of keeping me out of most of their functions with the excuse of "you work too much". Not true because sometimes I do make myself available but yet find myself excluded. Last week. His mom invited us for a celebratory dinner at the restaurant after she completed her recovery. I had to with that day but I let her and everyone know that I'd be there at 8 pm. Bob obviously knew I was coming." However, when she reached the dinner party, she witnessed that her own family had not left her a seat at the table.
"Thing is when I arrived at the restaurant I saw that the table was full. All chairs had been taken and I just stood there with complete puzzlement while Bob and his mom just stared at me. His mom then told me there was no place left for me and that I could either have Bob get up and take his seat or .... go home. I was so upset but instead of going home I just went and took an entire table for myself. Bob and his mom watched with their eyes popping out of their heads like they saw something so shocking... NGL I did get weird looks from the guests but so did Bob and his mom. It was awkward in all honesty. I had my dinner and dessert, then went home. I saw Bob and his mom staring grudgingly while I was making my way out."
Later, her husband came home enraged and said that she embarrassed them both. "He got home an hour later and yelled saying I embarrassed his mom in front of her guests. I yelled asking WTF was I supposed to do after I got denied a seat and he told me that it wasn't his nor his mom's fault guests arrived "before" me and took all the available chairs. I told him he could've saved me a chair!!!!!. he said that I could've just left instead, and reminded me that I was a "guest" and that I shouldn't expect this level of entitlement to be "accepted". He then went on about how I ruined the entire dinner for him and his mom with what I did and has been pouting about it for days now." Bewildered, the woman checked with the community as to what exactly was the meaning of it all. "I don't get it, I really don't. was my expectation really that entitled? I mean as his wife he should've saved me a seat. But clearly, I'm missing something here."
Comments flooded in, unanimously despising the husband and mother-in-law's behavior. "Why are you married to someone who would literally sit there staring at you instead of doing something to help and then blame the situation on you?" Another one commented, "A mum and son team who are ready to reject, publicly humiliate, gaslight, and tear apart someone like this isn’t magically going to turn into decent people. You saw what happens when you stand up for yourself. Please go learn about “post-separation abuse” and prepare a safe way to get out."
A lot of comments also mentioned how all of it was unnecessarily dramatic and avoidable. "Not just staring - they told her she could go home! Her husband and his mother could not be more clear that they don't like her. This is like 7th-grade mean girl shit." Another one said, "So many options! I have never once, not been able to squeeze someone into a table in this situation. That’s some next-level disrespect." Even if accommodating her was an actual problem, users felt the husband could have handled it differently. "If there really was NO way to accommodate an extra seat or split the tables, I would have gone to sit with my wife at the other table (making sure to come back and check on my mom at the large table a couple of times since that would be polite). I wouldn't leave my wife to eat by herself like a leper."
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