The bride, i.e. her sister-in-law, doesn't share a healthy relationship with her father, so she wanted her brother to walk her down the aisle instead.
Sibling relationships are often one of the closest bonds one forms in their life. You want them to be around on all your important days, especially your wedding day. Siblings do take over wedding duties and outdo to make their siblings' day special. But is it okay for a brother to walk her sister down the aisle, despite the father being alive? One woman doesn't find that to be a reasonable arrangement and asked the Reddit community on a post if she was wrong to not feel too cheerful about the idea.
Reddit user u/Throra334356 explained the family equations in her post. "My husband, Mike (37) is the eldest in his family. He's pretty close with his sister Beth, (28) and they spend almost all week together." Beth doesn't share the most loving relationship with her father. They had a falling out years before, after Beth's father damaged her car. They weren't in contact with each other for years until recently. Now that Beth's getting married, he's going to attend the celebration. But, Beth would rather have her brother Mark walk her down the aisle. "From what I understand, she and her dad are slowly getting reconciled, but she made it clear she wants him to take no part in the wedding." When the Reddit user got to know about Beth's wish, she found it rather odd. "I have to say that I was taken aback and it felt a bit odd for me because, her dad is alive, they're on speaking terms again, and he's gonna be there at the wedding so the logical thing to do is have him walk her down the aisle. This role isn't for her older brother but for her father. Not to mention how Father-in-law will feel about it."
When she expressed her opinion on the matter with Mike and Beth, she got aggressive responses from both." I brought this up with Beth and she had an attitude and implied that I was just saying this and objecting because of how I feel about the situation not how our traditions should be practiced." Mike too thought she was just pushing her personal opinion. "Mike thinks I'm being unreasonable and possibly causing him to miss something so sentimental and that if anything, he feels honored to be asked to do this for her, and said that I should stop worrying about what others might say." She said that their reactions have left her in a dilemma and yet to reach a solution.
Many users commented on the matter. Most of them aggressively pointed out how it wasn't the author's place to comment on what Beth wants for her wedding. One user commented, "The person who walks her down the aisle can be anyone that has played a big part in her life. You’ve acknowledged that your husband has been that for her. What does it matter who she chooses? It’s not your wedding or your business." Another comment read, "For real, she says "the three of us" like she gets a say?? She has literally no stakes in this discussion. It's not her family, her marriage, nor her history. Just this bizarre nosy entitlement."
One user empathically explained how she understood Beth's position. She expressed how parental relationships can be quite complicated for some."People who get to have blissfully uncomplicated relationships with their parents do not understand what it's like. And it gets tiring to hear people pull the "but that's your mooooooootherrrrr" line when they have no clue what went down between us." The majority of comments saw it to be a decision solely between Beth and Mike. They felt that like every other bride, Beth has all the right to design the wedding of her dreams, however unusual it may look.
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