She said she wanted all the attention of the wedding on her and believed her sister's husband would take away some of the spotlight.
A woman was shocked after her husband, who's in a wheelchair, was not invited to her sister's wedding because she didn't want him in any of the photos. She decided against going to her sister's wedding but her family was incensed and blamed her for upsetting her sister. She took to Reddit to share her story and asked if she was in the wrong. The thread has gone viral with more than 13k upvotes and sparked discussion on who was right.
"My sister is getting married next month. My husband and I were both planning on going but when we got the invitation it was only for me. When I called my sister and asked about it she said my husband was, of course, fine to come but she requested that he not be in any family photos," wrote the woman. She elaborated that they had been married for nearly a decade, so it was odd that her sister would suddenly spring this on her. Her sister said she wanted all the attention of the wedding on her, especially in the photos, and believed her husband would take away some of the spotlight.
"My husband is in a wheelchair. I've been married to him for 8 years. He has been in a wheelchair since he was 16 and my family has always ever known him to be in his chair. Apparently, my sister doesn't want him in any of her wedding photos because she is afraid that he'll take attention away from her because he is "different." She justifies this by saying when people come over and see our family photo they always ask about him because he's the only one that is in a wheelchair so he stands out. She says she wants to be the main focus in her photos," she added.
She couldn't believe what she was hearing and told her sister off. She decided to skip the wedding. "I was livid. I went off on her and told her she was being a selfish bridezilla. I told her we wouldn't be coming," she wrote. Family members urged her to come, but they also demanded that she apologize to her sister. "I've been getting calls from parents and relatives telling me I need to apologize to my sister because now she's upset. I'm angry at them for thinking it's OK to leave my husband out of family photos because of his disability. My husband hates being a burden on people and he says he's fine with not being in the photos. Which made me even angrier because now he feels bad about himself for something I feel is unwarranted," she wrote.
She asked Reddit if she was being a bad person by not supporting her sister's big day on account of this. "My husband says we should be there for family, even if he can't be in the photos. My family says I need to apologize. But I feel like this is an issue I need to fight for. Am I wrong?" she asked. Reddit overwhelmingly sided with her and told her she had every right to stand up for her husband and herself. "This is ABSOLUTELY an issue that you need to fight for," wrote one person. "Your sister wants to exclude your husband for no other reason than his wheelchair, and that’s unacceptable. She is being a bridezilla, for sure, and your a**hole family members are backing her up. Don’t feel one ounce of guilt for her. That’s just freaking awful, and she needs to get over herself." One person asked her to flip the table on her sister. "Schedule a photoshoot with you and your husband on her wedding day, go all out make them spectacular, and post them to show how amazingly photogenic your husband is," they wrote. She joked about hiring semi-attractive actors to fill in for them.