Will Smith & Jada Pinkett-Smith Reveal How They Got Through Tough Times In Their 21-Year Successful Marriage

Will Smith & Jada Pinkett-Smith Reveal How They Got Through Tough Times In Their 21-Year Successful Marriage

Marriage is a life long commitment that has its own challenges. The iconic Smiths have had their low points but have worked together to create an unbreakable bond.

A great romantic relationship is tough to achieve but a long committed marriage is even harder. While Hollywood has seen the stories of great marriages and romantic couples in the past, there is something very distinctive about Will Smith and his love Jada Pinkett Smith. Being one of the most iconic power couples in the entertainment industry, the Smiths have always made it a point to be real about their marriage and relationship. Not only are they vocal about their good times, but the couple has never been hesitant to open up about the difficulties of sustaining their marriage. 


The love story of this couple goes back to 1994 when they first met each other on the sets of the popular 90's sitcom, The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. Will, who was attracted to Jada, did not act upon it as he was already married at the time. "I knew there was something in our energy that would be magic," said Will, years later about his first meeting with Jada quoted Oprah magazine. But soon after his wife divorced him, Will knew he had to be with Jada. The two who started dating each other tied the knot in 1997.  Ever since they have been through high and low points and have talked about it several times.

During an episode of Red Table Talk, the Smiths discussed their troubles in marriage and spoke about what they did as a couple to save their marriage. Jada recalled how their relationship, in the beginning, was driven by what was happening outside them. Will who grew up in a broken household was determined to create the ideal family. "I grew up in a household where I was scared and watched my father beat my mother up. I was gonna build the complete opposite of that. I had a public perception that I wanted to project of our relationship, of the family, and what my kids are and what my wife is and what we are in the world," said Will about their initial days of marriage to Insider. However, Jada felt pressurized and suffocated to fulfill the unrealistic expectations of a conventional marriage. She added that she was trying to create Will's idea of a "perfect family." "I think I was trying to live up to an idea for him," said Jada to Insider.


“There was too much concentration on what was happening externally, and the family unit itself wasn’t getting the attention and care that I felt we needed,” said Jada quoted People.  “Will’s like, ‘We just came from Oslo, going to the [2009] Nobel Peace Prize ceremony [for Barack Obama] as a family, you’ve got a big house with a lake – isn’t this amazing?!’ And I’m like, 'No,'” said Jada quoted People

The Smiths who are known to be incredibly candid about their marriage said that they hit the lowest point in when Will planned Jada's 40th birthday party. Jada who knew Will's intention had reached her breaking point by then. "By the time my 40th [birthday] came, I was like, ‘I can’t do it anymore.’ I was so depleted,” she said quoted People. On that day, she knew it was time for her to address the problems she really faced.

"She told me that the party was the most ridiculous display of my ego," he recalled. "Crushed, right? To this day I know I was crushed because it was true. It wasn’t a party for her,” said Will quoted Oprah Magazine. Though Jada's words hurt Will, he soon realized she was stating facts. "I was much more conscious of public perception than Jada," Will explained to the Insider.


The couple who never wanted to get a divorce, broke up within their marriage to create a different world, redefining the rules of their relationship forever. “I’ve wanted to personally break out of Will needing to be something for me because I felt like that was so unfair. And a lot of it had to do with my father issues. I just realized one day, ‘This man is not your father!'” said Jada to People.

Will who loved his wife immensely took two years away from Hollywood to concentrate and work on their marriage. He let go of his ideal dream family to allow a change in their life. “I was devastated even worse than a divorce. We broke up within our marriage and got back together again. We had to rebuild with new rules and something way, completely different,” said Will.


The couple stood by each other and got back together with new rules that have been the foundation of their relationship since then. It’s a life partnership in the sense that we’ve created a foundation together that we know is for this lifetime,” said Jada to Oprah Magazine.  Will promised to remain a strong pillar for his wife. “We have devoted ourselves to each other in a spiritual, emotional sense. Whatever she needs, she can count on me for the rest of her life,” said Will.  The Smiths are a unique example of how two individuals can make things work between them if they truly understand and respect each other.