The woman never faced a hostile attitude from her in-laws and so the woman was confused by their actions.
It is obvious for a person to feel bad if he or she feels they are not respected or even considered to be an important part of their partner's life by their in-laws. One such daughter-in-law took to a social platform to describe how her in-laws acted as if she was non-existent in their son's life through a Christmas present.
A Reddit user named beehive1982 told the users she was married to her husband for the past seven years. She had known him for eleven years altogether and was madly in love ever since. "My husband and I have been married for seven years and have been together for eleven. We are still madly in love and recognized as a perfect match," wrote the woman on Reddit. She then went on to say that her inlaws had never been hostile to her and had always been kind.
However, a recent incident has left her confused. She told users that her in-laws gave her husband a beautiful photo album for Christmas. It consisted of printed pictures that showed her husband's entire life, starting from his childhood. "My husband got a beautiful present from his parents: a photo album with printed pictures telling his story from the very beginning. Very emotional....," wrote the wife.
But, one-minute detail about the album was surprising to her. While the album covered every stage in his life with pictures of numerous friends and family, there was hardly a picture of hers. "I only appear in one of these pictures - a picture featuring four people where my face is not even visible," wrote the woman. She continued, "The present was only for my husband and the focus was on him being a child with his family. Still, there are a lot of pictures with friends."
Added to that, the in-laws did not forget to include the picture of her husband's ex-girlfriend. They even had a portrait of her in the album. "The present was only for my husband and the focus was on him being a child with his family. Still, there are a lot of pictures with friends - there are even pictures of his ex-girlfriend - Including one portrait of her alone. I understand that she’s part of his story and I’m not jealous at all," wrote the woman.
The wife went on to say that a similar album was given to her husband's brother. But unlike her husband's album, it had pictures of his wife and their marriage. "My husband’s older brother was given a similar photo album for himself and in that case it featured several pictures of his wife and his marriage," wrote the daughter-in-law.
The woman admitted that she did not raise her concerns at home. However, she felt embarrassed to be excluded from the album. "I was totally embarrassed when the last page was turned and I found out that I wasn’t in any of the pictures. I didn’t say anything to them but now I can’t explain to myself. My husband didn’t react either and now is struggling to find a justification," told the woman to other users. And then she asked the readers if she would be in the wrong if she brought it up with her in-laws.
Reddit users quickly came to help the woman with suggestions. They criticized the in-laws but were divided on whether it was done on purpose. While some termed the in-laws' actions "not deliberate," others could not side with that claim. "You don't put that much work into something like that and not only forget to include someone's partner of 11 YEARS, but also throw in a single picture of said partner that doesn't include their face!!!"
Users were also divided on whether the woman should have confronted the in-laws. "Facts if they’ve really never shown any hostility and been kind as OP says here, it isn’t worth digging that conversation up for this present," wrote one user. Another said, "I would bring it up to your husband, not your inlaws. And approach it like "does this seem weird to you?", not as a confrontational "why do your parents hate me?" Many talked about their experiences and how their in-laws loved their partner's ex more than them.
What do you think?