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What It Feels Like To Care For A Dying Parent In Their Last Few Days
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What It Feels Like To Care For A Dying Parent In Their Last Few Days

"When an estranged parent dies, they get to leave the demons that haunted them on Earth behind," Sher Bailey said. "Ours stay with us, always at the ready to come out and force remembering."

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Editor's note: This article was originally published on September 5, 2019. It has since been updated.  

Sher Bailey knew very well that the days she was spending with her mother were the last ones. And even though it brought her unimaginable pain to watch the woman who gave her life slowly inch towards her final moments, Bailey did not want to spend a minute away from her. Talking about her last few days with her mother, Sher Bailey writes, "This will be a painful post to write, and it may be painful for you to read.  But it’s an important conversation to have with yourself before it happens." From simply finding comfort in just being by their side, to being reminded that death, too, can be as real and tangible as life itself, can leave a huge impact on you.

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In a 2014 blog post titled Her name was Sybil, Sher Bailey paid a beautiful tribute to her mother, thanking her mother for everything she had done, right from bringing her into this world when she was just 19. She wrote, "...thank you for sticking with the whole parenting thing and doing your best to figure it out when you were just a kid yourself. It must have been wicked hard, but you put on a brave face and a little make-up, and kept being my Mother."