The things that make you most anxious or afraid can help you figure out what's holding you back in life and relationships.
For most of your life, you may have been told that it's best to never show your fears to the world. But even when you try to suppress them, you might have noticed that behind closed doors or in overly crowded places, those fears come creeping to the surface and you feel like you can't get a grip over them. Here's what your deepest fears, the ones you rarely talk about to others, says about your personality.
One of the most important things that you cherish in your life is relationships. And the fear of being alone could show that the idea of being separated from your loved ones makes you anxious. You could be the kind of person who puts in significant time and effort to hold up your end of a relationship because when you love, you love with all your heart.
It is because you value relationships so much that you fear to lose the people you love. For the people in your life who can never be replaced, you are willing to go to any lengths to keep them happy because you know that the people who really care will do the same for you.
Whenever you have a difficult conversation with someone or you feel your nerves getting to you when you have to speak in front of a crowd, it could show that you feel anxious about being misunderstood. You may have met judgmental and the overly critical kind in the past, and you might have felt misunderstood by them.
What you value in your life are the opinions that you strongly believe in. You passionately believe in certain things but seeing how some people won't understand your point of view has made you nervous about being judged the wrong way.
You may give your best to everything you do, you may put great effort into the relationships that matter, and you may achieve most of the things you set your mind to. But you still think that you're not good enough for your friends, your family, or yourself. It could mean that you are a perfectionist and you push yourself, sometimes, more than you need to.
Often, you forget that many strengths you have and dwell on your flaws instead. Most of the time, you might find yourself to be the harshest critic in your life, forgetting that it's perfectly okay to go easy on yourself every now and then.
When you're stuck in a room full of people and you feel like you're trapped in there, it could show how important your personal space is for you. You might be someone who prefers spending your time with the few people you wholly trust. You also enjoy your alone time, where you can reconnect with yourself.
When it comes to relationships, you don't appreciate it when people overstep their boundaries and invade your personal space. Because of this, you might take your time to get to know someone before you slowly let your guard down in front of them.
If you find it nerve-wracking to make the first move, whether it's to ask someone out or ask a long lost friend if they would like to catch up, you hesitate to make the first move. It could show that you are always doubting yourself and worrying about what the other person's reaction might be.
Most of the time, you don't give yourself enough credit and you hold yourself back when those rare moments come by, offering you a special opportunity. You second-guess yourself, worrying about the outcome before taking a chance. You are quick to think that people will say "no" to you, forgetting that there's a huge chance that they might say "yes" and it's worth the shot.
Disclaimer: This article is based on information/facts collated from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.