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5 Ways Your Rough Childhood May Be Stopping You From Experiencing True Love As An Adult
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5 Ways Your Rough Childhood May Be Stopping You From Experiencing True Love As An Adult

You have gotten so used to bottling up all your emotions that even your partner is sometimes a stranger to them.

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In all those times you experience childhood trauma, you felt all kinds of emotions that you were too young to deal with—fear, anger, misery, helplessness and possibly even guilt. In your own home, you felt no escape and the only way you dealt with the rage was turning it inwards and possibly projecting it on to yourself. The rough childhood that you had sometimes stops you from letting true love take over your life because of the following.

1. You don't easily trust because you're afraid they'll leave you too

Never feeling safe in your own home as a child has made you struggle with trusting people as an adult. There are times when you avoid situations that make you feel vulnerable. Even though you hate the misery of feeling lonely, you still isolate yourself because you've grown used to it. When you meet a partner who treats you well, you tell yourself that it's too good to be true and that it'll only be a matter of time before they show their true colors. Being too choosy with the ones you trust has possibly made you filter out even the compassionate people in your life who only want the best for you.

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2. You crave for love but believe that you're not worth it

Constantly being told as a child that you're not good enough, not smart enough, not strong enough, are hurtful words that still echo in your mind as an adult. And that stops you from giving yourself fully into love, even though you long for it. "Fear of rejection often dominates the daughter’s inner world because she’s afraid of more proof and evidence that her mother is right and that she really is worthless and unlovable," said author Peg Streep, who wrote about the effects of being an unloved child for PsychCentral. Even when you meet a kind person, ready to commit to you, you tell yourself that you don't deserve to be in a relationship, robbing yourself of the chance to be loved.