How you normally sit next to each other can show whether there's a distance growing between you both or whether you still feel the strong connection with each other.
It's not always the grand gestures or the duration of your relationship that reveals the kind of intimacy your partner and you share. The simplest of things that you two do together can reflect how connected, or disconnected you are with each other. The way you both slump into your couch at the end of a long day, or perhaps on a lazy weekend, shows your level of comfort with each other. It can tell you more about which stage of the relationship you are in.
The moment there's some emotional distance that forms between you and your partner, it will reflect in the distance you keep between you both physically, and you both end up sitting far apart on the two corners of the couch. While it may not always be the case, the distance you put between yourselves, “usually indicates a couple that has become detached," said body language expert Dr. Georgina Barnett, according to The Sun. “Taking a seat at the opposite end from the other can be a protest behavior to try and make a point following a row."
But if you find that you and your partner usually sit this way even when you're not having a fight, it could be a sign of how you both have drifted apart. "This is even more serious if both have their legs crossed pointing away from each other," said Dr. Barnett.
When you sit in this manner whilst still ensuring there's some form of physical contact, either holding hands or your feet touching, it shows how you both are extremely intimate with each other, but still maintain your own freedom in the relationship. Having the small touch of contact shows how you both might not be "in the first flush of passion" but you are still bonded to each other. “Couples who sit in this position have confidence in the relationship and have a level of trust that allows for a healthy amount of space," Dr. Barnett.
This manner of sitting with your partner is a sign of a "happy and contented couple" and also makes for a comfortable way of watching the television.
Although this seems like a pose that shows intimacy, what it really reveals are the dynamics of power in the relationship. You can tell a lot about who has an upper hand in the relationship. There is a certain level of closeness that you and your partner share, however, one is more confident in the relationship while the other is slightly insecure and is seeking reassurance.
“The person spread out in the corner is owning the space, suggesting confidence and power in the relationship," said Dr. Barnett. “The partner in the middle, however, might be less secure and is seeking contact and reassurance - literally clinging on.”
When this is the usual way that you both sit on the couch, it shows how you have a strong connection with each other and are equally satisfied in the relationship. Dr. Barnett said: “There is equality in this relationship and a real connection – the main focus of being on the sofa is togetherness."
Although this is typically the manner of sitting early on in the relationship, if you see that your partner and you still sit this way after so many months of years, it shows how the passion in the relationship hasn't fizzled out. “If the couple’s heads are leaning together as well, this indicates an emotional as well as physical connection," said Dr. Barnett.
At first, you might think that sitting on two different couches is a bad thing. But it could just mean that your partner and you have spent years by each other's side and grown used to each other's separate interests. While your partner might want to unwind with a book in hand, you might want catch the latest episode of your favorite show. And the best part is both of you are completely okay with that. The relationship has reached a level where you no longer seek quality time together or intimacy to feel secure with each other.
This is one of the most common ways in which middle-aged couples in long-term relationships sit.
“It does not necessarily indicate any problems, but rather a couple that has grown used to each other over the years," said Dr. Barnett. “However, the lack of proximity in this position can indicate that the couple have become indifferent towards each other, or possibly that they have fallen into leading separate lives.”
Generally sitting in this manner once again shows the dynamics of power in the relationship. When one person generally curls up on the couch next to their partner, it shows how they tend to be the submissive one in the relationship and sitting in this way shows how they're seeking comfort from the other. On the other hand, the person whose body is more spread out is more secure in the relationship.
"...The person in the corner tends to be the stronger one in the relationship, and the partner more submissive," said Dr. Barnett. “This position is sometimes seen when one is insecure in a partnership, as they are to some extent adopting a foetal position.”
If you find that your partner and you usually sit in this manner with one person's legs on the other person's lap, it mostly indicates how you both are extremely comfortable with each other. You both are generally relaxed with each other and happy in the relationship. However, there are times when this might also reveal that one of you is more controlling over the other in the relationship.
“Whoever has their legs on their partner is the one in control," said Dr. Barnett. “The person with their legs over their partner is to some degree demanding attention and has the dominant position – possibly in the relationship, as well as in the moment.”