From how intimate you are to who's seeking extra comfort from the other, there's so much you realize about your relationship from the way you cuddle.
Every form of touch in a relationship has something to say. When your partner reaches out for you and pulls you into their arms, it shows how they want to be as close as they can be to you. But different couples have different ways of showing it. While for some it might be a tight embrace, for others it can be something as simple as a gentle touch.
The manner in which you cuddle your partner can show how connected you are with each other and how you express yourself in a relationship. Here's what your cuddling style says about the kind of bond you share your parter.
If your partner is the one laying their head on your lap, it shows how they're letting themselves be vulnerable with you and like the way you care for them. It's a way for them to say, "I trust you to be gentle and caring with me," according to Cosmopolitan. If it's something your partner has started doing recently, it could also be a sign that they're going through something difficult and they are longing for the comfort of your touch.
As you lie in bed having your backs to each other, it shows how you both value your freedom as individuals whilst still putting your commitment to the relationship. Patti Wood, body language expert and author explained that maintaining some amount of touch with your legs or butts touching shows how you both still have a sexual connection but value your independence at the same time, according to Elite Daily.
When spooning is your regular way of cuddling each other, it shows how you're both comfortable and in tune with each other. For couples, this is a way of “merging their bodies together as one, so you may see them dressing alike or enjoying the same things," said Jane Greer, relationship expert and author, according to Women's Health. There’s a certain similarity that your partner and you share and it's what keeps you both connected.
Feeling the need to wrap your arms around each other and lie face-to-face shows how you both have a deep connection. This is a common position for couples at the beginning of relationships, especially at times when emotions are at their peak. But when it continues long into the relationship, it might be a sign of over-dependency. Elizabeth Flynn Campbell, a New York psychotherapist said, “[the couple] could be overly enmeshed, too dependent on each other to sleep apart,” according to HuffPost.
Lying your head on your partner's chest shows that your partner is able to give you the protection and feeling of security in a relationship. And your partner has no issues with letting their arm ache, showing that they will always be there for you. “There’s a high level of trust here,” said Shirley Glass, a psychologist and martial therapist, who called it a way of “strengthening sense of comradeship and protection.”
Sometimes, you might want enough room to breathe when you're lying next to each other. However, letting your legs hug shows how you both see yourselves together as one entity. “It means your lives are intertwined, that you function as a pair. You probably finish each other’s sentences and take care of each other,” said Wood. However, if this isn't a normal thing for you both and you see that your partner's leg is reaching out to yours, it might be a sign that they're seeking emotional or sexual connection from you.