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5 Kinds Of Toxic Mothers That Daughters Of Unloving Moms Can Identify
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5 Kinds Of Toxic Mothers That Daughters Of Unloving Moms Can Identify

Even as an adult, you can still hear their voice ringing in your head, telling you how you're still doing it wrong or how you're just not enough.

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Let's admit it. Not all of us have grown up with kind and loving mothers. Only those few of us who have seen the other side of dark mothering know what it feels like to grow up feeling unloved. To grow up in a house where you feel isolated or misunderstood by your own mother, the woman you're supposed to turn to in times of emotional pain can be damaging in more ways than one. The void that this kind of sadness leaves often lasts for decades into adulthood. The biggest loss we experience as unloved daughters is loss of our innate self-worth and sense of belonging. And when we turn into mothers ourselves, we try harder to ensure our own kids don't go through the same pain.

As an adult, you might still wonder if it was because of something you did or just the way you are that caused your mom to react the way she did. It is important to remind yourself that it was not your fault. Which kind of mothering did you experience?

1. The controlling mother

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Growing up with a controlling mother meant that you were always in the shadow of her overpowering personality. She would dictate everything about your life — what you can wear, whom you were "allowed" to meet, where you could go, and how you "should" behave. Whenever you're around her, the tone of her voice would "paralyze you or galvanize you" into doing things for her, according to BetterHelp.

If you were raised by a narcissistic mother, there is a good possibility that she micromanaged your entire life and possibly even convinced you that it's for your own good. Because of this, you may have always felt like your opinions or your thoughts were never important enough to be voiced or fulfilled.

2. The narcissistic mother

To the world, she might have seemed like a charming woman. Her friends might have loved her dinner sets or other parents might have thought she has everything together. But only you know the reality of being in a house with her. Your needs may have never been heard and she may have made you feel like a failure, especially when her desires are not being met, as pointed out by author, Mark Banschick, for Psychology Today.