Getting married may be easy but staying married is hard. However, staying happily married is surprisingly easy according to Tom Hanks, who has been married to his wife Rita Wilson for 31 long years!
Finding "the one" has to be one of the toughest things in life. After going in and out of relationships, you start to wonder if there is actually even someone out there for you. Especially when half the time news is filled with Hollywood celebrities divorcing each other, you think that if they aren't able to find true love, then what hope is there for you. But there are Hollywood couples who will prove to you that there is someone for everyone, including you.
Couples like Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith, Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively and especially Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are proof of that. In fact, the latter have been happily married for 31 years. Curious as to the secret behind it? Well, Tom Hanks is ready to share them, though he doesn't exactly consider them to be secrets. Talking to People, he said, “We just like each other,” he said, simply. “You start there.”
The story of their love begins in 1985 when they were pulled together for the filming of Volunteers where their characters were in love. The two of them fell in love off-screen as well but with Tom being married and a father-of-two and Rita engaged, it was tough. After three years, Tom finally divorced his wife and got married to Rita. Now, Tom mentions that his first marriage was rushed because he was young, impulsive, and worked all the time. He mentions that a true marriage comes from making a conscious and mature decision. “Don’t get married before you’re 30 years old,” said the actor.
Before he married Rita, Tom converted his faith to the Greek Orthodox Church, the religion of his to-be-wife's family. Since marrying within the religion was incredibly important to Rita and she was just as important to Tom, he made that sacrifice. "I sacrificed something for my wife. Rita has Greek roots and they have the Orthodox faith. And I was a Catholic, so before getting married I converted my faith out of deep respect to her family.”
It's a nice feeling to have your partner do things that show that they deeply care about making you happy. Tom agrees with that as even after so many years of marriage, they still find a way to do small things for each other.
“I view my wife as my lover, and we have a bond that goes beyond words like wife or girlfriend or mother. I can’t imagine my life without her. I often leave notes for her near the phone or somewhere in the kitchen. I wish her a good day and stuff like that. I type notes for her using the antique typewriters that I collect — I have more than a hundred. And also, I have a habit of sending a photo report of my day to Rita. I take pictures of everything around me when she is not with me: what I eat for lunch, who I meet, what I shoot. I think she likes it,” Hanks shares.
This couple has had a ton of roller-coaster moments but they have stood by each other through everything. Especially when Rita was tragically diagnosed with breast cancer in 2015. When talking to the New York Times, she mentioned how scared she was of her husband's reaction and how her disease would affect her marriage.
But she had no cause to worry because fighting through the cancer just brought them closer. "You never know how your spouse is going to react in a situation like this," Wilson told the New York Times. "I was so amazed, so blown away by the care my husband gave me." Tom said, “All I can do is bow down before the courage of my wife.” Thankfully, even without chemotherapy, the disease cleared up.
In an interview with the Mirror UK, Tom said, “They say it must be hard work. No, it’s not. We give each other a natural sense of support for whatever the other wants to pursue. Our marriage doesn’t require vast work.”
The couple values everything they've been through together and never take for granted what they have. Brain-Sharper shares a statement that Tom makes about how much he appreciates his wife. Tom said, “This woman loved me when I was thin and loved me when I was fat. She loved me bald and loved me with hair. This woman loves me, I know that. This is why I am a lucky man.”
Tom's advice as simple a statement as, “My secret to a happy marriage is just being married to the right woman. I got lucky with the wonderful Rita Wilson. I’m the luckiest man alive.” And according to the Epoch Times, “We laugh just as much now at two in the morning as we always have,” Hanks shared.