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It Was Not Easy, But I Have Grown Strong From A Dark Past. This Is What I Now Seek In A Relationship

It Was Not Easy, But I Have Grown Strong From A Dark Past. This Is What I Now Seek In A Relationship

Treat me the way I deserve to be treated without wanting to change any part of me. And I will fill our relationship with unconditional love.

It took me many years and several painful experiences to become the woman I am today. And there's nothing I will allow into my life now that can change who I have grown to be. When I'm finally in a relationship with someone I love, I'm going to make sure it's a relationship where I'm valued for the person I am and loved for even the cracks and flaws that I come with.

I've been in relationships where my partner has tried to change me. They would try to tell me what I could wear, where I could go and whom I could speak to. But no longer am I going to let anyone change me. If you love me, you have to love everything I come with.

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So, to my future partner, here's what I have to say. I'm done with 'casual' and I'm done with flings. If you want a relationship, it has to be the real deal. I'm perfectly fine taking care of myself. So if we're together, please be ready to give me a real commitment.

I'm not the kind of woman who would sugarcoat things. If I have an opinion about something, be patient enough to listen to what I have to say. Sometimes it might not be what you want to hear, but it will always be the words you need.

Even in a relationship, there are some things I like to do on my own. I value my independence and I like to do things my way. So, don't be shocked when I don't always need your help. But that doesn't mean I love you any less. As long as we both respect each other and treat each other as equals in the relationship, we can make anything work. Don't let my independence be something that intimidates you. We can both be emotionally strong people who inspire each other to do more and be more together.

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When I'm ready to love you for the way you are, I expect that you will do the same in return. I know we will put our utmost trust in the relationship to make things work. It will be our completely honesty and commitment that keeps us together in the relationship while we still have lives of our own outside the relationship.

Your needs will become my needs, because I know you will do the same for me. I will listen to you for hours after you have a bad day because you would have done the same for me whenever I needed someone to listen. When you need a shoulder to cry on, I will be there right by your side, because I know that when I need my source of strength, you would be there for me, too.

Don't be afraid to tell me your deepest secrets. The ones you think you can never tell anyone, you can always tell me. We don't always have to find the answers, but we will always be there to push each other through any storm.

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Treat me the way I deserve to be treated, without wanting to change any part of me. And I will fill our relationship with unconditional love. Love me without trying to change me, break me or bend me to your whims. I hope you will show me your adventures side, too. Our relationship will be just as passionate as it will be adventurous.

Just the way I am, just the way you are, that's how we both will be in the relationship. Open with each other, accepting of each other and embracing all that we come with. We don't have to be perfect people, but we can still have a perfect relationship.