After years of people telling you how adamant and persistent you are, here's proof that it's actually a good thing.
Remember all those times back in your childhood where you refused to go to sleep when it was time for bed or put up a tantrum when you didn’t want to put your toys away? And do you remember that you weren’t afraid to question your teacher when you didn’t feel right about something? Well, while your parents may have had a tough time getting you to eat your veggies, there are reasons to believe that your stubbornness as a kid pays off when you grow into an adult.
Being strong-willed as a child can come with a world of benefits as you grow up, reveals a study as reported by TIME. The researchers observed children aged between 8 to 12 years of age and evaluated their journey into adulthood. After four decades, findings showed that children who were defiant ended up being some of the most successful adults. So if you were a child who broke a few rules here and there, then your chances of having a better living than others increase. Stubbornness could be a trait that keeps you motivated and adamant when it comes to achieving your goals.
It is also said by APost that adults who were hard-headed as children were more likely to high-achievers and more accomplished, earning better in their careers as well, as opposed to adults who were more laid back and passive when they were children.
As a child, when you are more willing to fight for what you want and what you believe in, it is more likely that you will do the same when you are older. This means that as a stubborn child, you would not have given up on your needs that easily. And as you grew older, you wouldn’t have given up so easily on the goals you set for yourself either.
When you were younger, being stubborn meant that you were persistent about what you wanted to do. This meant that you would put up with your problems for longer just so that you could find a solution. This showed your determination and will to find answers to what you want.
On the contrary, passive children were more likely to give up on their problems and follow what their friends, parents, or teachers tell them to do. And they were likely to carry this into their years of adulthood as well. Although your parents and siblings might have definitely found it a challenge to hold their argument against you, eventually you understood how to put your stubbornness into good use.
As stubborn children grow up, they are shown to be able to perform better academically and also chase after successful lives. You wouldn’t let go of something you know you deserve for someone else. You would give yourself a fair chance, rather than slide and let someone else take your place or take what you deserve.
But that’s not all. If you tend to be the kind of person who doesn’t follow the herd, that could also be an effect of that stubborn gene in you. Stubborn children are likely to be the ones who follow their own instinct. So if your gut feeling was most likely the reason why you didn’t easily fall into peer pressure like everyone else. And so, you grew up to be a person who is brave and able enough to speak up for your needs and fight for what you want. You refused to remain passive and blindly follow what other people tell you to do.
So, consider yourself lucky if you have been called stubborn, adamant or persistent in your childhood more often than once. This could be the very sign that proves how resilient you are. You are not someone who will easily back down when confronted by a problem. A challenge won’t scare you or make you give in to the whims of others. And if you have a child or a little one in your life who is as stubborn as they come, don’t discourage their stubbornness. Find ways to handle it in a healthy way because they might be on their way to success.