Though the repeated cries and screams of your stubborn child may annoy you as parents, a new survey reveals that your kid will end up to be a rich adult
When they giggle and smile, nothing beats the cuteness of an adorable little toddler. But what about their switch to temper tantrums that can push your buttons? Looking after toddlers also means you have to be ready to deal with their unpredictable, impulsive and never-ending tantrums that will test your patience more often than you're prepared for. Mothers who are often left to deal with it may usually feel worried, tired and irritated. While this is frustrating to deal with, you may not have to worry as much about having a stubborn child. A new study assures you that your toddler whom you thought is a little too stubborn for their own good is absolutely alright, and guess what? They might also grow up to be rich and successful than the rest!
Yes, you got that right. A European study revealed that your rebellious and stubborn children are likely to have a great career and grow up to be successful adults making lots of money.
According to the study published in Developmental Psychology, children who fought with their parents and authorities in their toddler years were seen to stay in school, go further with higher levels of education and finally land successful careers. The study was based on income and education of kids who attended schools in Luxembourg. The study observed 700 children who were 12 years of age and studied their behavior until they grew up to be about 52 years old. It was concluded that stubborn kids grew up to be passionate adults who earned more than adults who were more passive as kids.
The study also encourages parents to embrace the stubbornness in your little child as they are likely to end up being determined, adults. The results of the study may not seem as far fetched if you think about it. Stubborn children are more likely to fight for what they believe in, even if they may come across as a little too aggressive. And while this quality may stem from stubbornness, it could indicate that they're willing to fight for the promotion they think they rightfully deserve or refuse to give up because they have their heart set on a goal that may otherwise be too demotivating for others.
If you are not yet convinced that your rebellious kid will make it in life, there are also other studies that have similar results. A study by psychologist Angela Duckworth from the University of Pennsylvania who published the book, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, said that if kids develop something she called the "grit" from an early stage in life, they are likely to find success in their career. She defined grit as the perseverance and passion for long-term goals.
Though these tantrums like crying, screaming and shouting can be stressful to a lot of parents, researchers say that these temper tantrums are natural. They claim that the screams for their favorite toy or cries for chocolates when sick are all part of their growth and development. According to experts, children usually show such tantrums because of the non-development of some parts of the brain that allows them to think logically.
Scientists also say that during the development stage of a child where they don't know how to express their emotions and feelings with words, tantrums are their way of conveying how they feel about the situation around. Young children often use temper tantrums to manage their feelings, understand or even change the situation they consider unpleasant.
Little kids usually have no idea what has upset them and they end up showing their frustration in the form of cries and shouts. As parents, the best way to manage your kids who might test your patience quite often is to try connecting to the needs of the child. The more emotionally you can connect with your toddler, the easier will it be for you to manage the needs of the kid.