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I Will Fight For Our Relationship But The Truth Is, I'm Not Afraid To Walk Alone

I Will Fight For Our Relationship But The Truth Is, I'm Not Afraid To Walk Alone

The sensitive woman in me might give you a chance, but the strong woman in me won't hesitate to walk away.

Yes, I'll fight and yes, I'll give the relationship my everything. But I'm only going to fight for something that I know is worth it. I will protect you and take on your battles for you, but only if I know that you're going to do the same for you.

Seeing you stick around when things are convenient and then abandon our relationship when things get rough is not something I'm going to keep putting up with. I may forgive you once because I believe in second chances. But don't think I'll keep coming back to you when I can't trust you to carry your weight in the relationship. Being alone is certainly not something I'm afraid of. Because the most important relationship in my life is the one that I have with myself.

I'd rather be in a relationship where I am happy being alone than feeling trapped in a relationship where I'm made to feel lonely.

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I don't need to hang onto a man's arm to feel loved; it's the pride with which I carry myself that dictates my satisfaction. I don't need to have your arm around me to make me feel safe; it's my fierce independence that controls my emotional security.  

When you think I will change myself to fit your idea of the 'ideal partner', know that I will never give up on any of the strengths or weaknesses that I have. I deserve someone who is going to show me their love and look past my imperfections in the same way that I do for them. I can't please everyone around me, so my only focus is on pleasing myself. And since the day I decided that for myself, it filled me with the confidence I needed to be comfortable in my own skin.

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Neither do I ever feel sorry for myself and nor do I let other people feel sorry for me. Self-pity is only going to stop me from all the wonderful things I deserve. I'd rather be grateful for everything good in my present and focus on the happiness I see in my future, rather than dwell on the way you hurt me in the past.

So, no! I'm not afraid to walk away from a relationship where I feel degraded. I don't care about the looks that people might give me when I say, "I'm single" or that I don't have a man in my life. All that I have to tell them is that if I'm single, it's not because I've run out of options, it's because it's my choice. I'm not going to say "yes" to a partner who has a hidden agenda.

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It took me long enough to finally accept myself and give the love that I deserve. And I'm not going to give that up for you or anyone else. If you're ready for a real, committed relationship, then show it to me. Don't apologize and think that I'm going to put up with the same cycle of negativity again. Don't come to me with a bargain; if you're coming back, make sure you're ready this time. And if you can't, I'd think of it as you doing me a favor.

I'm certainly not afraid of braving this world alone. I will still be giving equal importance to my own peace of mind and choices as I do to that of a relationship, and until I find a partner who can respect that, I'm perfectly happy being single. Until I find someone who's sensitive enough to handle my vulnerabilities and strong enough to admit that they have weaknesses too, I can wait patiently. Till then, my fearless heart and my independence will keep me company.