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6 Signs Your Partner Is Playing With Your Emotions And You Don't Realize It

6 Signs Your Partner Is Playing With Your Emotions And You Don't Realize It

Your partner does not respect you but controls you and your emotions. Here are a few signs that will help you realize that you are with the wrong person.

Though we might believe we have the best relationship, there might be things that we ignore about our partner. Sometimes, we tell ourselves that it is the way they are wired or we convince ourselves they will change if we give them time. However, though months or years have passed by, you still believe in that change which may not really happen. Here are a few signs that tell you that your partner is taking advantage of the goodness in you and toying with your emotions:

1. They have no time for your opinion

Though you like to put your ideas and thoughts forward, your partner does not seem to encourage any of it. They prefer you to listen to them than you coming up with your own opinions. They also find ways to block you rather than give you a minute and just listen. According to Psychology Today, this indicates your partner believes your perspective is not worth listening to. They are people who think, they are always right and don't think they need anybody's opinion. Even if they do listen, they listen just long enough to tell you that you're wrong with no regard for your feelings.

2. They will never take NO for an answer

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If your partner is someone who refuses to accept anything you have to say and convince you to do things their way regardless of how you feel, it indicates they're taking your emotions for granted. Your 'no' is never taken into concern irrespective of how it affects you. It shows their controlling side and will often be seen lawyering you around. They, however, do not realize that their action will eventually break the stability of the relationship.

3. They have no problem getting in your way 

When your partner does not want you to do something, they do not mind stopping you with their threat or physical hold. They believe it is okay to stop you and wouldn't even mind if they are hurting you with it. They believe they have the power to make you stay in a situation even if you strongly disagree with it. This indicates a strongly manipulative and controlling partner.

4. They are emotionally unavailable

As a partner, you want to share every bit of your life with the one you love but your partner is someone who doesn't care about being emotionally present in your life. When your partner is emotionally unavailable, they will make excuses when you need them, or perhaps even behave completely disinterested regardless of whether you're depressed or even angry. They do not care for what you feel and have other priorities that matter more than the relationship with you.

5. They have everything rehearsed

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They are in for a debate every time you address a genuine concern of yours. There is no winning with your partner because they know the perfect answer to all your problems. They never give room for anything and talk as if they had rehearsed it beforehand. While it is perfectly okay to have discussions, for them it is all about winning even if it makes you feel like your emotions don't matter in the relationship. Dr. Doug Saunders, a clinical psychologist says that conversation should be about understanding feelings and not about the debate itself.

6. They want you to be their therapist

Your partner may not always be there for you when you need them, but they expect you to be there for them in their time of need. When they are sad or angry, they want you around no matter what. It is never an option for you, but an expectation for them, even if it means you have to listen to them rant and cry. Most of the time, they think they are the only important person in the relationship. According to Men's Health, the partner who is expected to be present at all times is put through a lot of stress trying to deal with the emotional turmoil it causes.

References:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201407/why-doesnt-shehe-listen-me-10-possibilities
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/friendship-20/201803/5-behaviors-no-one-in-relationship-should-accept
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201803/10-signs-emotionally-unavailable-partner
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/friendship-20/201506/20-signs-your-partner-is-controlling
https://globalnews.ca/news/3998315/partner-doesnt-listen/
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a23866180/emotionally-unavailable-partner/