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When You've Been Mentally Strong For Too Long, Feeling Emotionally Exhausted Can Drain Your Soul

When You've Been Mentally Strong For Too Long, Feeling Emotionally Exhausted Can Drain Your Soul

You may be able to put on a brave front around other people, but once the door is closed, the tears emerge.

You may have a gentle exterior, but a fierce soul is what defines true strength. Some of the most admirable people out there are those who carry on with their lives as if nothing's wrong even when there's a whirlwind of emotions lurking below the surface, threatening to overwhelm them. If you identify with this feeling, you may be really pushing yourself to be your normal self, even when it feels like everything's crashing down around you. You're drawing on your incredible strength to keep going, even in times when you feel like giving into the incredible exhaustion you feel deep within.

Sometimes our minds and bodies can keep functioning even when the soul is weary and in desperate need of respite. You may be going through a lot of stress, dealing with grief or loss, battling through toxic relationships, or dealing with internal struggles. And you may even be forcing yourself to be mentally strong. But deep down, you're emotionally exhausted, and these are the signs you really need to take some time off to focus on yourself.

1. You don't need other people's help, but you often feel lonely

You do just fine on your own, and you rarely, if ever, lean onto other people. Your incredible strength can keep you going in the most difficult of times, and the people you love may never know that you're under a lot of stress because of how well you do even when you have only yourself to rely on.

You hate to burden other people because you know they have their own problems and worries to deal with. However, having to be your own rock and your own strength when you're emotionally exhausted can take an unimaginable toll on you. You start to feel lonely and crave for a comforting word or a supportive gesture, just to ease a bit of the load on your back.

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2. You look after others' needs, but your own are often neglected

You may be an incredibly sensitive person, in tune with the world around you, and deeply aware of other people and their needs. You're constantly ensuring that your family is taken care of, your friends have a shoulder to cry on, and the people you know are never wanting of anything that you can provide. But in the constant rush to meet everyone else's needs and keep everyone else happy, you forget to tend to your own. You may sacrifice your comfort so that your loved ones gain comfort, but the more you deprive yourself, the wearier your soul gets.

3. You're always there for people, but their issues keep you up at night

You're never the kind to refuse to help someone when you know it is within your capacity to do so. You love to be there for your loved ones in their times of need, and you never hesitate to intervene on their behalf when they're in dire straits. However, you can often end up taking responsibility for things that aren't yours to deal with. You may find it hard to sleep at night because of how exhausted you are from constantly being there for your loved ones. Their marital problems, financial issues, dilemmas, and crises keep you up at night as you worry about how to help them.

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4. You work hard, but sometimes you find motivation hard to come by

The amazing thing about you is that you have the mental fortitude to keep going even when you're emotionally exhausted. You are conscientious and never stop working, even when you've lost all motivation. You push yourself to carry out your responsibilities because you never want anyone else to be inconvenienced by you. However, even as you're trying to give your best, you're constantly battling your inner demons. You feel exhausted and feel like giving up. You often just want to run away from it all, but you have nowhere to go. The motivation to work is hard to come by, but you still dig deep to keep pushing yourself.

5. You have a strong exterior around everyone else, but the tears emerge when you're alone

You are the epitome of stability and normalcy when you're around others, and you have the maturity to push your feelings aside when needed. But when you've been the person the world expects you to be for too long, it feels like a facade, and you're often drowning in your emotions behind the mask you wear. You stay strong for the people you love, even when you want to so desperately just have the time and space to be weak, for once.

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You show concern and compassion to others even when you're on the verge of crumbling into tears, and you wish you could find some respite from these overwhelming emotions.

All these are signs that you desperately need a break and some support. You may have the strength to keep it together and continue functioning even when you're falling apart on the inside, but you can't sustain this forever. Before you reach the breaking point, confide in a loved one what you've been going through and consult a mental health professional who can help you deal with your emotional exhaustion. A little support can go a long way to helping you feel better and find the motivation you need to keep going.

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