Sandra Bullock entry into motherhood was eventful. But the actress gathered strength and raised two children on her own.
Sometimes life does not go according to our plans. But having the strength to face the unknown future is commendable. The award-winning actress and philanthropist Sandra Bullock is a perfect example. Her life took some unexpected turns but Sandra was not afraid to face the harsh realities of life. She overcame them with a smile and emerged stronger and bolder.
In December 2001, Miss Congeniality actress met custom motorcycle builder and TV personality Jesse James. The couple who fell in love started dating. Soon, Sandra and Jesse tied the knot in an intimate ceremony in Santa Barbara. Sandra who loved her husband dearly started her new life and became the stepmother to Jesse's children. Though she was a stepmom, Sandra who was in her early 40s felt she wanted to have children of her own. So she decided to adopt her first child with husband Jesse. The couple began the adoption process and waited until everything was finalized. Sandra was thrilled to start a family with her husband.
However, the events that followed shocked Sandra and left her with a future she was unprepared for. "My life took a trajectory that wasn’t very pleasant, but I feel like it had to happen in order for me to fully understand what family was about," said the actress to Independent. In 2010, her husband Jesse was accused of having multiple affairs and the heartbroken actress filed for divorce.
Sandra who was 46 was shattered. She was not ready to embark on parenthood alone. Though it took some time, she accepted the reality that was in front of her and made Louis part of her life. It was not easy for Sandra. As a single mother, she was disturbed by the silent notions of society.
“Society’s hard,” said Sandra to Independent. “Society still, as open-minded as we’ve become, has these rules that quietly say: ‘This is the way it goes.’ They’re saying: ‘It’s a man and a woman, and then you have a baby, and that’s the family.’ I go: ‘Oh my god, I’m a single parent. With a child. How am I…’ I felt less than. I felt: ‘I’m not the complete package.’ And then I realized… this is the complete package.”
Just like other single mothers, Sandra too had her worries and confusions. She doubted if she was doing enough for her son but Sandra enjoyed every moment she shared with her son. "Every single second of every single day ... don't know if I feel like a bad mom, but at the end of the day I'm always plagued with, 'Did I do enough? Should I go in a different direction?' But I also know that my entire life revolves around Louis," said Sandra to Parade Magazine in 2013.
Five years later, she adopted her second child Laila. Within a span of few years, Sandra began to see life differently. More than being an actress, Sandra wanted to be the best mom in the world. "It's just like-- being a mom I finally realize, oh, this is what I was supposed to do when I grew up. Not be an actress; to be a mom... This is my purpose," said the actress to Cinema Blend. Motherhood changed her perceptions of life and even changed her priorities.
"It's my kids. Everything is about them being okay, being in school, having what they need, their moments. I need to be there for every single moment they have. It's harder for me to leave them than I think it is for them when I leave. I don't leave that much and I don't work that much anymore either. I keep looking at them going, 'I got nothing but you'... So my priorities are my kids, my kids, my kids. My family. My family. That's it," said the actress.
Though she faced a lot of hardships, Sandra does not want to change anything about her past. “My life went the way it went because it was supposed to be that way,” says Sandra. Though her kids drive her crazy every day, Sandra said to Asia One, "For me, it's the most painful and beautiful feeling on a daily basis. My kids destroy me daily."
The actress who had withdrawn from relationships and dating after her divorce met her partner Bryan Randall in 2015. She believes that her family is now complete with her two kids and a supportive partner. "But everyone keeps saying, 'Never say never,' so I’ll say, 'No, I think our family is complete,'" said Sandra.