You don't waste your time with someone who is intimidated by what you have to say or feels insecure by the things you do.
You're tough, you fight for what you believe in, and you stand up for yourself. But that's not why you're the alpha. You're not afraid to go after what you want, especially in a relationship. That's why you don't just say "yes" to any relationship, and even if you do, you walk away the moment you realize it's not what you're looking for. And here's why.
Yes, you look for love and care in a relationship just like anyone else. But you know that you don't need a partner to validate your worth or to simply feel better about yourself. You know what your worth is and nothing anybody says can take that away from you. You don't see your partner as someone who 'completes' you because you're complete just the way you are. You want to find someone who compliments you.
Alpha females say what they mean and do what they say. You don't like to sugarcoat things and you don't expect people to do the same for you either. That's why you look for a partner who won't be intimidated by what you have to say but will be able to listen to you with an open mind and heart. You always make space for your partner's opinions and want space to be made for your opinions as well.
All the clichés about romance and the idea of a knight in shining armor are things that you don't believe in. You don't look for the fairytale kind of love. You don't need someone to put you on a pedestal either. All you want is someone who can give you the respect that you deserve. Someone who will be loyal to you and brings honesty to the relationship.
When you're in a relationship, you don't expect every day to be perfect. You know that there will be good days and bad days because even couples in healthy relationships argue. But you're willing to handle the differences in such a way that they're resolved, instead of causing more drama. That's simply because you don't have the time or effort for drama. You're willing to take the lead when things get rough in the relationship, but you can't tolerate silly mind games.
You have your own way of doing things and you want a partner who will understand that. You don't stay long in a relationship where your partner tries to control you due to their own insecurities. If your partner starts telling you what you can and cannot do, you know that it's because they are too insecure to trust you. And if they're not willing to listen to you, then you won't let yourself be trapped in the relationship.
You've seen all kinds of experiences in your life and have overcome them all. Even when you're not in a relationship, you have so many things going on for you. Finding someone to love and spend time with is not a necessity, but rather a conscious choice. After all, it's better to wait it out for the right kind of relationship that doesn't weigh you down, than be with someone for the sake of it. More importantly, you don't believe in investing your time and energy in a relationship that's not worth the effort.
One of the things that set you apart as an alpha female is the confidence you have in yourself. You know that your energy is limitless and nothing can stand in the way of you getting what you want, not even a relationship. If you feel like your partner is bringing you down or can't be happy with your success, then they don't deserve you at all. You can't deal with a partner who can't accept you for the way you are. You want a partner who can make space for an independent, free woman and if that's not what you get, you're more than willing to wait.