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Plus-Size Woman’s Friend Said She 'Wasn’t Pretty Enough' for Fiancé | Woman Commented on Friend’s Personality

Plus-Size Woman’s Friend Said She 'Wasn’t Pretty Enough' for Fiancé | Woman Commented on Friend’s Personality

The friend told the woman's fiancé that he shouldn't marry her as he is extremely handsome.

A plus-size woman took to Reddit to share her experience of how her friend thinks that she isn't attractive enough for her fiancé.

The woman, who goes by the username, creepystuffthrow, mentioned that during the proposal all her family and friends were present, except her best friend, per Percolately. She wrote in a post on the Am I the A**hole? Reddit community, "My fiance Mike is a smoking hot man. I mean he is model handsome, whereas I am a plus-sized gothic woman that isn’t considered conventionally attractive."



 

 

She added, "He is also sapiosexual. We started long distance and he didn’t even ask for a photo for weeks. He said my brain was enough for him, and he has proven that every day. We have been together 5 years now, living together for 4 and I feel adored and practically worshipped. A week ago, he proposed. He did a perfect proposal with most of our friends and family involved. I noticed Julie wasn’t there, who has been my best friend since we were 10, but I didn’t think much of it. Julie is also extraordinarily beautiful and is an aspiring influencer."

However, she was shocked when her fiancé, Mike, showed her a thread of his conversation with Julie in which he asked her for help with the proposal. She explained, "It started off fairly innocently where she asks questions about things such as the ring, locale." She added, "After that, she sent him questions like if he really wants to marry me due to my weight and health conditions (I have PCOS and fibro.) Mike has been helping me with diet and exercise, and I’ve lost over 120 pounds."

 



 

She further added, "She’s well aware of his encouragement and support, so this came out of left field. He said yes and went back to trying to plan when she started bringing up my ‘flaws,’ like my skin not being constantly clear or my slightly crooked nose." The friend told the fiance that he should be marrying her instead of the woman. She continues, "His response was a bit cruel, to be honest. He said that she wasn’t intelligent enough to be attracted to and her interests were vapid. She blocked him." 

The woman texted her friend to confront her about this conversation. She wrote, "She started making excuses at first, but then she just flat out said that I wasn’t pretty enough to deserve him and that it wasn’t fair she was beautiful and single."

The woman finally had had enough. "I sent her a message back saying that she was beautiful, but her personality has made her ugly and then I blocked her," she wrote.

The woman explained that all their friends are taking sides, "some are saying I should be more sympathetic because she was brutally dumped recently (he cheated and got his affair partner pregnant.) A few are mad that I insulted her as I did." 

 



 

 

She said that she feels bad for insulting her and her mom, who is also friends with Julie, said that she should have taken the high road. However, Reddit users think that she did the right thing by responding to her in a strict manner. A person commented, "I know you all think your responses were cruel but I think they were spot on. She is the cruel one, projecting her insecurities and jealousy onto you and Mike. It doesn’t matter what her problems are, you didn’t cause them."

Another person said, "Even if the responses were cruel, so what? This so called "friend" was ready to blow up OP's life and basically tried to get her fiance to cheat on her and leave her out of jelousy so why should they continue to be nice to her." A third person commented, "Taking the high road is severely overrated. As soon as you start doing it, it sets an expectation that you'll do that, that you're a doormat, that you can be walked all over."

References:

https://percolately.com/plus-size-woman-unattractive-friend/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/utc2gt/aita_for_telling_my_now_ex_best_friend_that_her/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/utc2gt/comment/i98ttot/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/utc2gt/comment/i9b07dn/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/utc2gt/comment/i98uj9z/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

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