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Mother-In-Law Bans Bride's Disabled Father From Attending Wedding Because He Might "Traumatize" Guests

Mother-In-Law Bans Bride's Disabled Father From Attending Wedding Because He Might "Traumatize" Guests

For the bride-to-be, her father's physical differences didn't define him. He was and always will be one of the most important men in her life.

In the days that lead up to a wedding, the only thing a bride will imagine is being surrounded by her loved ones and making memories with them on her big day. But for this bride-to-be, things weren't as perfect as she dreamed it to be. The 27-year-old was wrapped up in the joy of planning for her approaching wedding, where she would finally tie the knot with an ‘amazing guy’, according to The Sun. However, her soon to be mother-in-law suggested something that crushed her heart. Because it would mean not having her dear father beside her as she walked down the aisle.

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The distraught woman wrote on Facebook, “When I was a little girl, my dad was involved in a really bad accident and was burned over a large portion of his body. He lost part of one limb and has some serious disfigurement." For her, she never thought of her father's physical conditions all her life. All she knew was that he was one of the most important men in her life and nothing else mattered. She continued to say, “He has been a great dad and I never think about it.”

The air between her and her fiancé started becoming slightly tense. “A few weeks ago, my fiancé started acting strange when we talked about the wedding," she wrote. "Then his mom called me out of the blue and told me that she didn’t think my dad should come to the wedding." Hearing those words would have been devastating for her.

Fathers, too, always imagine the best for their daughters. And the experience of walking beside their princess, hand-in-hand towards the altar is something that fathers often think of as they watch them grow up over the years. However, this woman's mother-in-law was trying to take that experience away from both of them.

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“She thinks that he will upset the guests and 'traumatise' any children who might be there," wrote the bride-to-be. “She is suggesting that we have a private family ceremony before the big blowout.” Not knowing what to do, she approached her mother and told her what was going on. But when she saw how understanding her parents were, it only made her feel worse.

“I got upset and my mom asked why. When I told her, she said that she and my dad understand, which only makes me feel worse," she continued to say. “Maybe my future MIL [mother-in-law] had a point, but I would really rather disinvite her than my dad.”

A number of people reacted to her post on social media and supported her final thought, agreeing that it should be her mother-in-law who should be disinvited. One comment said, “Run because she’s a monster.”

Some of the comments even highlighted how the mother-in-law's insensitivity could reflect how the rest of the in-laws might be, and even showed concern about how the fiancé might really be. One comment said, “That is the most f***ed up thing I’ve ever read, I would throw the man and his whole family away,” while another said, “The fact that your fiancé didn’t immediately tell his mum where to go lest her be uninvited would tell me I was marrying into the wrong family tbh.”

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Several of the people who commented also talked about how her father deserves to be there on her wedding day. One person, who lost her own father wrote, “I lost my father 12 years ago. I still dread my wedding day because he won’t be there to walk me down. F*** your MIL and have your father walk you down. I would give ANYTHING to have him there. Hell, I’d have your dad walk me down if I knew who you are.”

It doesn't matter if he looks different from others, if he's in a wheelchair, or is differently-abled in any other way. Nobody should take that precious moment away from a father and his daughter at her wedding.

The following unconventional dance was one that was shared between another woman and her father, who had an illness that put him in a wheelchair. But none of that mattered. All that mattered was that they both shared this beautiful moment together as she started a new chapter.