A mother-in-law convinced a man to change the spelling of his son while his wife was asleep at the hospital.
Chris or Cris may sound similar to us. But every parent gives a lot of importance to naming their child. Every name is chosen along with their spelling after rounds of discussions. For some parents, each syllable can have great significance. So even if it does not matter to the people around, it means a lot to the one who picked it out. Mothers especially have a certain sentiment associated with their children and everything that relates to them. Any mother would be furious if they found out someone changed their child's name, just like this mother did.
In an advice column on Slate, a new mother addressing herself as 'Mamma Bear told the world how she was astonished to find after two months of giving birth that her child's middle name was changed from “Finley” to “Finlay” by her husband who was forced by her mother-in-law. The furious woman told that her mother in law thought “Finlay” was more masculine than “Finley.” The mother, who in the dark for long, only found the truth after she discovered the child's social security card and birth certificate. "His mother has always been a manipulator and I have always known she doesn’t like me. But she blatantly disrespected me and the name my husband and I had chosen for our son," wrote the mother.
The woman who had a C section was asleep when the whole event happened. She and her husband had already agreed on the name and spelling before the birth of their son. But things took a different turn when her mother-in-law who lives a few states away called her husband asking him to give a different first name to the newborn. "She tried to convince him to give our son a first name that I very much hated, saying that I would 'get mad, but get over it,'" wrote the woman. Her husband who thought that changing the first name would not be the right decision decided to change the spelling of the middle name as asked by his mother.
The woman, on the other hand, had no idea what had happened. However, she became suspicious when she received a Christmas gift from her mother-in-law that spelled her son's middle name "Finlay.” Though she raised it to her husband, he brushed off her concern and made her believe her son's middle name was spelled as she wanted. The woman wrote, "His mother even sent a Christmas gift to middle name “Finlay,” and when I made a comment to my husband he didn’t even have the decency to tell me! He just let me keep believing for two months that our son’s middle name was spelled Finley when it legally isn’t!"
After two months, she discovered the truth through her son's documents. The furious woman said that her mother-in-law disrespected her and manipulated her own son. "She manipulated my husband into thinking it was all right to lie to me about something as serious as the spelling of our son’s name," wrote the woman. She even pointed out that she believes that the Christmas gift with the middle name “Finlay” was sent to take a jab at her. She further went on to say that her husband was also responsible for what had happened.
However, the determined mother said that she was going to change the name of her son legally. More power to you, Mamma Bear!