She revealed that she often faces judgment from people who assume her boyfriend has "mommy issues."
It's always said love just happens. Overlooking age, gender, caste, creed, and everything else society uses to put us into neatly defined boxes, love finds a way. However, these factors immediately come into play when those involved step outside their bubble of love and companionship. While it is considered acceptable for women to date men who are older than them, the same is not applicable in reverse as men are questioned or looked down upon when they date older women. Tina Kubinska Slott, 41, discussed the same in an attempt to break this age gap taboo while speaking to Newsweek about her relationship with Kasper Borum, a 23-year-old student.
Slott revealed that she often faces judgment from people who assume Borum has "mommy issues."
"A lot of the time it's rich old men with young girls, they think one has to be rich that's why they are in the relationship—but there are so many people who are in an age-gap relationship are living a normal life," said Slott, who is from Copenhagen. "When it's an older guy with a younger woman it isn't a problem. But suddenly, if a younger guy likes older women, then he is accused of having 'mommy issues.' I never find myself mothering him, if anything, he looks out for me more as he has more spare time."
The mom-of-two also revealed that they split the bill most of the time, but she does treat Borum every other month. "Kasper hasn't got the same amount of money as me because he is a finance student. But I like to go out for nice food so sometimes I will pay a little more. I don't mind at all," she said. Borum—who is from Aarhus, Denmark—chimed in on the matter of money, saying: "Most people think I'm in this relationship for money. But that isn't true. I can pay for myself, and if someone pays for me I do feel bad about it."
"I have never been in an age-gap relationship before," said Borum, "but I have always liked older women. There are two big differences when comparing relationships with someone my age and the one I have with Tina. Previously, I felt like I was being held back as I work out five to six days a week which takes up a lot of time so this was a problem. Whereas Tina accepts it and doesn't get jealous or make it a problem. I find girls my age overthink a lot more as I have been accused of going to the gym to pick up fitness chicks that I didn't even know existed. Another big difference is the maturity, older women have more life experiences so they are more confident and unfazed by other people's opinions so I really appreciate that."
Slott revealed that she downloaded the dating app Tinder after she divorced her ex-husband in 2018. She received "lots of offers from younger men and found it interesting," at the time, she shared. "Initially, Kasper and I started talking on Tinder for a bit of fun. But then we realized we have so much in common, such as our sense of humor and the gym. We spoke for one month before meeting up. I look at him as a person rather than focus on his age. My main concern was my children as my daughter is only eight years younger than him. But she thinks it is cool and likes that he is young as he can relate to a lot of things. My friends were surprised, but now they see it as normal," said Slott.
The couple often catches the eye of the internet when Slott shares videos addressing their age gap on TikTok.
While the couple has been very happy in their relationship, Slott admitted that they sometimes have "different views and opinions" due to the age gap. "I do have more life experience," she said, "so sometimes I can tell him how I see it from my point of view. I think he learns from me as I have more life experience but I have also learned from him. He has taught me that you don't have to take life too seriously, sometimes he gets me up and out of the house to do something fun rather than house chores. I never stop him from being young and always encourage him to have fun. I never hold him back and stop him from doing anything he wants to do."
Cover Image Source: Instagram/Kasper Mertz Borum