He opened up constant tussle between his wife and his mother and said he couldn't help the situation while they lived with his Mom.
Living with family after becoming an adult can be a nightmare, but when it comes to living with your wife at your mother’s place, things can quickly spiral. In one such case, this Reddit user asked the community if he is wrong for telling his wife that he can’t be making rules over her mother for boundaries as they live in the mother’s house. Of course, things aren’t going as expected for the couple as they continue to live under the roof of the husband’s mother with one of their kid.
The Reddit user wrote about the constant tussle between his wife and him about her mother-in-law. “My wife and I recently had to move in with my mom along with our one-year-old son. My mom has made it very clear that we are ruining her life and she hates having us here,” he wrote, before describing his mother’s stance. “I have been having a hard time setting boundaries with my mom because her answer is if we don't like it we can leave and to be honest that sounds fair,” he adds.
“…but as for real boundaries and consequences, I just don't have any leverage. My wife has been on me lately about how I need to do more to set boundaries,” he says as he describes the exchange of sarcastic comments passed on by them each other. Confused at the situation he asks if he is wrong in denying the idea of arguing with the mom. Redditors understood the assignment as unfurled serious support for the mother who is not only letting adults live in her home but also listening to their complaints about making boundaries.
A user with the username penguin_squeak wrote, “If your wife wants boundaries, she needs to move out. And you're wife can't tell anyone where they can go in a home she's squatting in because she's a broke ass adult with a child living with her mother-in-law,” while another user level 2sparklecity23 commented, “Also - your MIL (wife's mom) was being kinda rude. Commenting on your mom's dress, for her work party, in her own house!?!?”, as the writer also mentioned how his wife’s mom commented on his mother’s party outfit in her own house, “I think I'm beginning to get why your mom doesn't want any of you around. She doesn't sound very nice per se, but hey - her home, her life,” adds the user after getting a hang of the situation.
What seems to be fair in such cases is to work hard while having the patience to endure such circumstances so that one does not face it again in the future and be grateful to those who provide shelter at the risk of getting insulted in their own home. Though, as a parent, you wouldn’t want to be rude to your children but when it’s adults, it is required to instill the idea of working for life than panting for comforts.
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