You could have had the most horrible, stressful, exhausting day. But the moment your partner wraps their arms around you, you instantly forget all about it.
When words fail you, a gentle touch can work its magic. It may be spontaneous foot massages, a stroke across your back as your partner crosses you in the kitchen, or pulling you closer towards them in their arms while you're snuggling up in bed. Just like the many forms it comes in, the touch of your lover has as many benefits to you and your relationship., And here's what they are.
When you're happier in a relationship, the less stressed you feel. The less stressed you feel, the many wonderful effects it has on your physical and mental health. "Women who report having received more hugs from their partners in the past have been shown to have significantly lower blood pressure levels than those women who do not have much history of being hugged by their partners," wrote Ben-Zeév. Touch can give rise to chemicals that help your body fight better against diseases and infections.
Among the many things that strengthen your relationship, physical touch is one of them. "Touch is crucial in creating and strengthening romantic relationships," professor and author, Aaron Ben-Zeév, wrote for Psychology Today. "Tactile physical affection is highly correlated with overall relationship and partner satisfaction." Hugging your partner and being intimate can fill you both with a rush of good feelings which strengthens the bond between you two.
While arguments are common among couples, the way to resolve them might not be. When it comes to conflicts, the power of a lover's touch can be just the thing to remind you of how much you both matter to each other, almost making you wonder why you both are fighting over petty issues. Even if the matter is something serious, touch can help you both come to a solution faster because at the end of the day, you're there for each other and you won't let the fight distance you both.
At the end of a horrible day, your partner might come up behind you and give you a hug, filling you with warm feelings. And the worries on your mind slowly slip away. Developmental psychologist Tiffany Field told Health, “you want to keep yourself in a state of relaxation and touch from someone who is close to you really helps in doing that.” When your partner takes your hand in theirs or wraps their arms around you, you feel your body and your mind start to relax, helping you deal with the stress better.
Among the great benefits of touch, relieving your body's pain could be one of them. A study published on Nature found that women who experienced a certain degree of pain in their forearm noticed that their pain subsided when their hands were held by their partner. It was even found that when couples hold hands, their breathing and heart rates tend to sync up. When pain is not something you have to deal with, it takes a huge weight off you, letting you enjoy more and living fuller lives with your partner.
When there's no touch in the relationship, it can leave you feeling deprived of that warmth and comfort. Touch can lead to moments of affection that bring you closer and without it, there will always be this lurking feeling that something is missing in the relationship.