Jennifer Aniston's energy and positivity are a result of her troubled past. She said it pushed her to be the person she is today.
Our negative past experiences are always a motivation for chasing after a better future. It shapes our values, our beliefs and helps us discern what is important in life. Jennifer Aniston who has had some tough encounters growing up opened up on how they influenced her to be a positive person.
Sitting down with America's sweetheart, Sandra Bullock for Interview Magazine, the Friends actress revealed the secrets behind her joyful outlook. Bullock asked Aniston, "What is it that allows you to stay buoyant and keep from getting discouraged when things don’t go the right way?” And Aniston had the perfect and thoughtful reply to the question. She stated one of the biggest influences that always pushed her towards "joy and positivity" was growing up in a "destabilized household," according to People.
The actress who recently turned 51 said, "First of all, that was the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me. I think that it comes from growing up in a household that was destabilized and felt unsafe, watching adults being unkind to each other, and witnessing certain things about human behavior that made me think: ‘I don’t want to do that. I don’t want to be that. I don’t want to experience this feeling I’m having in my body right now. I don’t want anyone else that I ever come in contact with ever to feel that."
Aniston, who witnessed the negativity around her, did not want her life to be the same. She knew as an adult she wanted to make a change and deliberately stayed away from being a reason for someone's unhappiness or pain. “So I guess I have my parents to thank. You can either be angry or be a martyr, or you can say, ‘You’ve got lemons? Let’s make lemonade,'” said the actress.
Meanwhile, the actress has very often talked about her tough childhood and the insecurities she went through as a child. Growing up, little Aniston did have the same exuberant and cheerful personality.
Her parents, Nancy Dow and John Aniston divorced when she was just nine-years-old. The young girl who was left with her mother, a model did not share a great bond with her. Aniston wanted attention and care from her mother but her mother was too preoccupied for it. "I did not come out the model child she’d hoped for and it was something that really resonated with me, this little girl just wanting to be seen and wanting to be loved by a [mom] who was too occupied with things that didn’t quite matter,” stated the Horrible Bosses actress, according to Huffington Post. As times passed by, the mother and the daughter went away on different paths. However, years later they did try to work on their relationship.
Aniston also forgave her dad for abandoning her. "...He’s not a good communicator. Maybe if my parents had talked more. There were signs, but also, knowing my father, he probably didn’t say anything. But, as best he could, my dad explained and apologized, and it’s enough. We’ve made up. There’s still parts that are hard for me, but I’m an adult. I can’t blame my parents anymore," said the actress, according to Rolling Stones.