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Mom Charges Her Daughter Rent But Not Her Son And People Are Not Happy
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Mom Charges Her Daughter Rent But Not Her Son And People Are Not Happy

The mom said that she made the decision because the kids are on two different paths of life.

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Editor’s note: This article was originally published on July 23, 2021. It has since been updated.

Some parents ask adult kids to pay rent as a way to teach them the responsibilities of living on their own before they actually do. But one mom was put under the spotlight for charging only one of her two kids. The mom sought out advice on the popular mom blog Mumsnet. She asked if she was being unreasonable for her decision to charge her daughter rent, but not her son. The reason behind the decision was that the two were on two different paths of life. Her post was titled titled “One at uni, one at work…” 

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The mom wondered if her choices for her 17-year-old daughter (whom she refers to as DD) and 18-year-old son (DS) would cause resentment. She explained that her daughter was undertaking a full-time apprenticeship course. Mom decided to charge her fairly independent daughter “rent/keep/petrol equivalent to 25% of her take home.” As for her son, he has decided to accept university offers and start a degree there. He recently broke up with his long-term girlfriend, as well. So the mom has decided to not charge her son. Now, the mother is "conflicted." She said that "we will be in a position of taking money from [daughter] and sending money to [son]. Which has totally changed the dynamic. I’m really conscious of causing resentment from [daughter] who already suffers a bit with middle child syndrome and jealousy." The mom went to ask for some advice on what to do: If you’ve been in this situation what did you do? I want DD to contribute for lots of reasons, none of which go away just because DS now needs three more years of support.