When she refused, the in-laws are threatened legal action against the widow.
Planning a future with someone and then having to go on without them is incredibly heartbreaking. Healing from the loss of a spouse is a painful path. But what do you do when a support system creates more distress in your life during this difficult time? Instead of concern, one woman who lost her husband of one and a half years was getting harassed over wedding rings by her in-laws instead. She took to Reddit's AITA (Am I the A**hole) community to ask for help. The post has since been deleted but Cafe Mom reports that she explained her story, writing, “Daniel and I were married for 1.5 years, together for 7. I received an engagement ring, wedding ring, and eternity band from him (a wedding anniversary gift for 1 yr married). Daniel died after an accident, which she chose not to give details on. He died suddenly, it sounds like, and “at the beginning of the year and my heart was broken. It still doesn't feel real, but I’m trying to live life the way he'd want me to everyday.”
The woman has not been in contact with his family for the past 6 months saying, " I suppose we were all hurting and need to heal.” But they reached out one day not to offer support but to ask about her rings. "Yesterday, my ex-SIL messaged me on fb. I’m a bit of an oversharer on fb and they knew about my eternity ring as well as the other rings,” she wrote. “My SIL wants me to return all the rings to them, as they say that Daniel paid for them and because he has died, they belong to the family,” OP said. And her mother-in-law agreed.
The grieving widow was shocked. “I've already given them back his childhood stuff he had,” she explained, “along with photos he had before I met him.” As for the rings, they “are deeply sentimental” to her and she doesn't want to let them go. “I'd be ok with giving them my plain wedding band, but the 2 others are beautiful, expensive (combined 19K), and remind me of the best time of my life,” she explained. “I'd give them my husband's wedding ring, but he was buried wearing it. I'm getting squeezed by his family to give them these rings. I don’t know if they just want them to sell or own, or what.” Things got nastier when the in-laws threatened her with seeking legal action surrounding this if she doesn’t “give them back.”
The Reddit community were horrified at the family's actions and supported the grieving widow. One user reassured her that she was not the a**hole, noting: Asking for a widow's wedding rings six months after losing her husband is deeply messed up. I'd cut ALL ties with these people. Let your AH SIL get a lawyer, it will be a waste of her money because those rings are YOURS, they were gifts. These people are disgusting. They aren't family heirlooms, they're just nice things they want to be able to pawn. Block all of them. Another pointed out: If they weren’t family heirlooms, then his family have no claim to them. Are they asking for furniture he purchased for your marital home or is it just the rings because they are worth more money. They are being a**holes. I’m so sorry for your loss