I need a man who loves me and appreciates me for who I am without trying to change me. If he can't accept me, I'm gone.
Love me the way I deserve to be loved because I know I'm worth more than the token effort so many men have put into me. I've had to deal with countless people who tried to get away with doing the bare minimum, but I'm no longer settling for half-hearted attempts at loving me. I can no longer tolerate being unappreciated because a relationship where I am not valued is an unhealthy relationship for me. It takes two to make a relationship work, and if I'm the only one putting in any effort, things are going to fall apart.
I'm willing to give you all my love, but if you can't love me for who I am, I won't force you to stay.
I'm tired of all the disappointments I've been through in my relationships. What I bring to the table is nothing short of kindness, humility, honesty, and vulnerability, and I know that these qualities are quite difficult to maintain. It's not easy to love you the way I do, and it hurts deeply when I notice that my love for you doesn't seem to move you.
When you brush aside my affections with a distracted nod or barely acknowledge me every time I walk into the room, it hurts. Your lack of interest in me and lack of appreciation for my efforts hit a nerve, and no woman deserves that kind of cruel indifference.
Like every woman, I deserve to be loved for who I am. I deserve to be valued for the unique individual I am, and I need to feel like you care about the person within, with all my thoughts, dreams, feelings, aspirations, and motivations. Just listening to me and expressing an interest in getting to know me better can really make me feel like you care. Knowing that you're concerned about what makes me happy and what upsets me, what I prefer to eat, what music I listen to, and what makes me tick can make me feel really appreciated.
I don't just want you to love me when I'm at my best. I also want to know that you care about me even on my bad days, when you see my dark side. I need a man who will be there for me on gloomy days when I don't quite feel up to meeting people, I need a man who will treat me with kindness and empathy when I'm upset or anxious, and I need a man who is willing to listen to me rant when I'm in a bad mood. I know I deserve a man like that because that's the kind of person I'm willing to be, too.
What would make me feel loved and appreciated are the small gestures that show me you're thinking of me. I love it when you get me flowers, send me a text letting me know you miss me, give me a warm hug after a long day at work, leave a thoughtful note for me on the fridge, or even show up at my doorstep with tickets to a movie. I don't want fancy and expensive things, though I wouldn't refuse them either. I just want to know that you value our relationship and love and accept the person that I am, wholeheartedly.
I look forward to working on our relationship together, through the trials and tribulations, and celebrate the milestones we cross together. I deserve a man who is not afraid to jump into the thick of things with me and work through our conflicts and issues with maturity and compassion. I deserve a man who isn't afraid of the bad days in a relationship and knows how to make the most of the good days.
I deserve a man who is in love with me from my deepest flaws to my greatest strengths, a man who cherishes me for the unique woman that I am and loves me no matter how many times we hurt each other. I know my worth, and I know what I deserve.
If you want to change me instead of accepting me and loving me, then let me go. Because I am not the woman for you. And you are not the man I deserve.