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Experts Finally Have The Answer To How Often You Should Have Intercourse For A Happy Marriage

Experts Finally Have The Answer To How Often You Should Have Intercourse For A Happy Marriage

There are different opinions on the number of times you should have intercourse. It may differ from couple to couple but the new study will help you with an accurate number.

Not many people whether married or committed are comfortable to ask questions related to sexual health. There might be many unanswered questions on our mind regarding sex, one among them can be regarding the number of times one should have sex. Finally, science has come up with an answer if you are wondering if you are having enough or too much sex. It was found that for happy sex life, you just need to have sex once in a week, giving a sigh of relief to people who find no time to share with their partners due to hectic work life.

According to a research conducted by the University of Toronto Mississauga, Ontario, Canada, couples who had sex once in a week were found to be as happy as couples who had more sex in a week. It concluded that happiness was dependent on the number of times a couple had sex.

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The lead researcher, Amy Muise, a postdoctoral studying sexual relationships at Dalhousie University in Canada, told CNN, "I do think couples can end up feeling pressure to try to engage in sex as frequently as possible. Once a week "is maybe a more realistic goal to set than thinking you have to have sex every day and that feels overwhelming and you avoid it." 

Why is sex important?

When you're involved in a romantic relationship, the feeling of contentment is important to most individuals and the happiness of a person can often depend on the state of their relationship. According to survey data by the US National Survey of Families and Households, sex is a crucial part of a romantic relationship as it gives a sense of satisfaction and happiness in an individual.

"For people in relationships, their romantic relationship quality is one of the biggest predictors of their overall happiness," Muise said. "Having sex more than once a week might not be enhancing that (relationship connection), although it is not bad."

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However, the researcher also added that it is not clear whether sex was a result of happiness or if it was happiness that resulted in more sex. He stated that it could be possible that people who had sex numerous times a week were already happy with their relationship. However, he also said that there might be a possibility that it was the regular sex that was the reason for their healthy and happy relationship. 

Advice from experts

While couples are recommended to have sex once in a week, not all experts believe there is one particular answer to it. “Sex seems to be rapidly falling to the bottom of America’s to-do list; but, in my experience, when couples stop having sex their relationships become vulnerable to anger, detachment, infidelity and, ultimately, divorce. I believe that sex matters: It’s the glue that keeps us together and, without it, couples become ‘good friends' at best, or ‘bickering roommates' at worst,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex therapist to Healthline

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Previous studies have also recommended the need to have sex 54 times a year that is equivalent to the number of weeks in a year. However, a study conducted by David Schnarch, Ph.D. claimed that only 26 percent of couples were able to hit the mark of sex once in a week. It also stated that having sex less than 10 times a week is equal to a sexless life. Another expert believes that you should have sex as many times as you like. “Couples often make the mistake of shooting for some number in order to feel okay about their sex life. “The truth is that whatever is comfortable for you and your partner is your normal. You don’t need to be having sex anymore or less than you’d like,” said Raffi Bilek, a couples counselor and the director of the Baltimore Therapy Center.

References:

https://www.health.com/sex/how-often-couples-have-sex

https://edition.cnn.com/2016/04/11/health/sex-frequency-happiness-research/index.html

https://www.healthline.com/health/baby/how-often-do-normal-couples-have-sex#2

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/intimacy-and-desire/201105/normal-healthy-couples-have-sexual-desire-problems

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550615616462

Disclaimer : This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.