Three months after their first date, the man sends her a message out of nowhere, listing the ways he thinks she should change to be appealing to him.
A first date that turns sour is bad enough and your only hope is that you can move on with your life without ever having to hear from them again. But that wasn't the case for a young woman named Kimberley Latham-Hawkesford.
When Kimberley was 24, she went out on a date with someone she met on Tinder. Not only did he fail to make a good impression on their first date, but he managed to make it a lot worse when he tried to make a comeback into her life a few months later, as reported by New York Post.
Kimberley met the guy in December 2018 where the pair went for coffee at Costa. When things seemed to be going well, they decided to go to a pub for dinner. And that's when things went downhill. Her date asked her if she planned on having plastic surgery and he even got offended when Kimberley offered to pay, according to The Sun.
At the end of their disaster of a date, Kimberley thought that would be the last she would hear from him. But three months later, he sent her a long message, explaining to her why he hadn't messaged her for long. And to make things go from bad to worse to outrageous, he even sent her a list of areas that Kimberley should change or improve upon.
"I feel like you could have made the date much better, here's a few reasons why. I apologize if I offend you," the message said.
Some of the points included in the list were, "If you lost some weight you would look incredible. Maybe about a stone or so" and "Your lips have gone down so you should think of getting more filler..."
He even said, "The fact you take things slow makes you look like a prude. I didn't get a kiss which messed with my ego. Be more sensitive to others' feelings."
The man went on to give his unsolicited advice on even the food she ordered on their first date.
He even said, "you need to keep your past to a minimum. I don't care about it and what you went through." After telling Kimberley how much he had in his bank account on their very first date, he mentioned in his 15-point list that her offering to pay made him feel bad.
At the end of his list, the man said, "If you take these on board I might consider another date." He signed off by telling Kimberley that she has a month to make these changes.
When she first saw the message from him, Kimberley was embarrassed and it severely hurt her confidence. But the more she read it, the more she found it funny that a guy would think it's okay to say these things to a woman. When she looked back at the first date they had three months ago, it didn't surprise her that he would send a message like this. After all, this was the guy who asked her where she would go for a new wardrobe before their second date.
The hurt she initially felt eventually disappeared, especially after her post on Facebook received a lot of attention and encouragement from people, including strangers who told her she needn't pay heed to a man and his absurd wishes.