Taking to Facebook, Haley Hassell explained how she handled the infuriating situation calmly yet effectively.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on October 5, 2021. It has since been updated.
Clueless what to do when you find your child behaving privileged and ungrateful? Get ready to take notes from a Florida mom, who went viral after posting a "long mom rant" on Facebook after being faced with a similar situation. Haley Hassell presented her daughter with a brand new pencil case that she only found after going to three different stores. But her 6-year-old threw a tantrum because she didn't want it anymore. While Hassell tried to be patient throughout this, she lost her calm when she found the LOL pencil case thrown in the trash. The shocked mother then decided to use this as a teaching moment and turned to social media to explain how she controlled her anger and taught her daughter a valuable lesson.
Uploading pictures of her daughter crying and the pencil case lying in the trash box, Hassell wrote, "Mrs. Presleigh [her daughter] learned a tough-love lesson today. I went to three different stores to get that LOL pencil box you see in the trash there. When I surprised her with it this afternoon (just knowing she would be ecstatic), she stared at it and threw it in the trash and slammed the bedroom door. She yelled, 'That’s stupid, everyone in my class has that... I don’t want it anymore!' WHAT, STOP, COME AGAIN?" wrote the mom, who was understandably furious with her daughter's attitude towards a loving gift. But more than anger, Hassell felt disappointed as she hadn't raised her daughter to be ungrateful.
"OK. So by this time, there was probably smoke coming out of my ears and I’m trying real hard not to completely lose it on this kid that I have worked so hard to completely take care of financially on my own and make sure she always gets what she needs and then some. But I thought I had always taught her to be grateful and know how lucky she was but apparently, sis needed a small wake-up call! So before completely going mad at my child, I check myself and say, 'Okay that’s fine, let me go get the one you’re going to use,'" continued Hassell, who an ingenious plan to teach her daughter a lesson in gratitude.
"[I] came back with her new pencil box, which is the Ziploc bag [pictured]. She lost her mind! Suddenly the LOL box she just trashed was good enough and the Ziploc bag was horrible... But it’s too late for all that. I told her to get the LOL [box] out of the trash and we would be finding a child to give it to tomorrow. One whose mommies and daddies don’t have money for any school supplies or someone who may not even have a mommy or daddy. I explained to her she’s not entitled to anything special and she is taking for granted how lucky she is. So, for now, she will be using a Ziploc bag and will personally be delivering the nice box to a child that could benefit from it. Maybe I overreact sometimes but I would’ve done anything to have all the things she does as a child. I truly believe changing your perception and just being grateful can turn around any situation in life," she shared of her amazing parenting technique.
Undoubtedly, the incident was a great example of good parenting but many did not approve of the way she blasted her own daughter on the internet. "I got personal messages in my inbox saying that I was a monster mother... They were saying I was a bad parent and bad parents raise bad children. I was just on a rant when I wrote it. I didn't think people were going to share it. People were saying I was publicly shaming my daughter, which I don't really agree with," she explained during an interview with Good Morning America. Hassell is glad that her daughter understood the situation and learned an important lesson that day. She even gained "perspective" after mailing the pencil case and other school supplies to a 5-year-old girl in another state. "Having a positive outlook can make or break you in life - I want her to know that," she said." "Nothing is going to be easy, but when something is given to you, you've got to be grateful.
Cover image source: Facebook | Haley Hassell