The things you both do everyday could be the very signs that show you whether you both will last or not.
We're always wondering what the big secret is to a longlasting relationship, one where you never grow out of being completely in love with each other. But the strength of a couple might not revolve around one big secret; it might be a few small, little things that really keep you both together. The things you do every day, the habits you both share together, and even taking time out to snuggle up on the couch with your favorite movie could be part of that secret.
If your partner and you share the following habits together, it could be a sign of how happy you are with each other.
While one may be at work or when you both are having hectic days, you both still make time to check in one each other by dropping a text or giving each other a quick call. It's an affectionate gesture that gives the other person a moment to breathe during their busy schedule. “Planned check-ins are times when both are mentally prepared to provide each other the space they need to explore, resolve and plan,” marriage and family therapist Spencer Northey, according to HuffPost. Even getting a joke from your partner could make the day so much easier.
At the end of every day, you both wind down together after dinner and forget all the stress and worries of the day. It helps you both destress with each other and fill each other in on what happened throughout the day. You might not fall asleep at the same time but it strengthens your intimacy.
"They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps," wrote Mark Goulston for Psychology Today. And when their skin touches, it still causes each of them to tingle and — unless one or both are completely exhausted — to feel sexually excited."
Longlasting couples spend enough time together and also by yourself. You both indulge in each other's hobbies and also find joy in just relaxing on the couch on a lazy afternoon. More importantly, you also take the time out to stay in touch with yourself.
“They are able to balance separateness and togetherness. They can enjoy feeling close to each other but are also able to feel satisfied and fulfilled in the separate dimensions of their lives,” said psychotherapist Elisabeth J. LaMott.
You both enjoy all the benefits of physical touch. When your partner comes back home, they instinctively wrap their arms around you showing how much they missed you. You don't hesitate to hold each other's hands or put an arm around each other as you walk down the street, and it shows how emotionally connected you are with each other.
“Intimacy and touch keeps you connected with your partner,” said Antonia Hall, psychologist, relationship expert, and author, according to Reader's Digest. “It fosters a connectedness that supports a strong and happy relationship.”
It takes two to make a relationship work and you both always share the load equally. You always ask each other "how can I help you with that?" and you do the chores together or divide them up, because you work well together as a team.
“Knowing your partner has your back and vice versa is a great source of comfort in the game of love,” said Julie Spira, an online dating expert, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and author. Being able to do this for each other shows how you're not focused on seeing each other as an 'I' but you see each other as 'we'.
Couples who trust and respect each other are not the kind to hold grudges. You both might fight and argue sometimes, but you are willing to put your heads to find a solution rather than turn the fight into a competition where one has to lose. When you're able to say "goodnight" to your partner, "This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident," wrote Goulston.
From the freckles around your partner's nose or the passion with which they do some of their favorite things, you always compliment each other not just to make them feel appreciated. “Compliments are the quickest way to put a smile on your partner’s face,” said Spira. It reminds you both of why you love each other so dearly, shows how you are kind to each other, and it pulls you closer in your strong relationship.