Father Is Upset With Wife for Giving Daughter a Different Name | “She May Be Trying to Recreate This Son”

Father Is Upset With Wife for Giving Daughter a Different Name | “She May Be Trying to Recreate This Son”

His wife accused him of stealing 'her right to name the child she gave birth to.'

A father is furious at his wife for calling their daughter with a name they would have given to a boy.

The man, who goes by the username u/Ok-Toe-5157, posted on Reddit about his wife's behavior. He wrote, "When my wife(31F) and I(29M) were trying to get pregnant, we had a deal that if we have a boy, she would get to choose the full name and if we had a daughter I would." He added, "I was fine with this deal but we both had a veto in case we didn't like the name the other had chosen, God Daily Dot. Once we got pregnant, my wife was completely sure that we're having a boy because 'a mother knows.' "



He further wrote, "Her entire family was convinced of it too. During baby shower, everything was blue and all the gifts were demanded to be masculine. Her mother had already started knitting things with the name my wife had chosen." However, the couple had a girl and the husband decided to giver her the name he had chosen.

However, things did not go exactly as planned. One day after returning from work, he heard his wife and MIL talk about their daughter using a different name. The man explained, "When I inquired who they were talking about, they kinda went deer in headlights and blurted that they were talking about daughter. When I asked why they were using another name, my MIL said because that's what we decided to name her." He further added, "Then she went on a rant about how it's unfair that I chose the name and how it's completely unsuitable for her, etc. I was shocked because this was the first time anyone had claimed any objections to the name."




He added that due to this his daughter is having difficulty in recognizing her name as people have been calling her by two different names. He wrote, "My wife later came to me suggesting we officially get her name changed and I stuck to my guns and told her we are not doing that and she needs to stop. This led to a fight about how unsupportive i am and stole her right to name the child she gave birth to. " 

He further added in his post, "I could be convinced to change the first name but the one she wants is a very odd feminine version of the name she wanted for her son. Imagine using a female version of the name Drake or Thomas. She got angry and left both my daughter and I and went to her parents." He said that the entire family except his father-in-law called him controlling. 



He wrote, "I feel it in my gut that she may be trying to recreate this son by sacrificing our daughter." He also wrote that he is now considering divorce though his parents think that this decision is an "overkill."

Most of the Reddit users said that the father was not at any fault. A user commented, "If she didn't like the name she should have told you so right away and you could have discussed compromises. Going behind your back and calling her a different name is very weird, not to mention sneaky and dishonest."

Another user wrote, "I disagree with your mother that divorce is overkill and that you should compromise, but I kind of agree with what might be the spirit of what she's saying, is that it might be worth trying a conciliatory approach to try and figure out what's going on with your wife." 






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