She was the darling of Hollywood who could naturally bring out the emotional side of her characters and left behind a legacy. No funeral, no memorial and no [grave] marker
She became the world's sweetheart for who she was. Doris Day was one of the few Hollywood legends that people couldn't help but be fond of for the incredible and talented woman she was.
Surrounded by her loved ones, the yesteryear actress and singer passed away on May 13, 2019, at her home in Carmel Valley, California. Being in great physical health, she lived for 97 eventful years. "Day had been in excellent physical health for her age, until recently contracting a serious case of pneumonia, resulting in her death," according to Doris Day Animal Foundation. "She was surrounded by a few close friends as she passed."
What has caught the attention of many amidst the news is Doris Day's choice to not have a funeral or memorial. She was someone who had an aversion to death and preferred not talking about it. “No funeral, no memorial and no [grave] marker,” Bob Bashara said. “She didn’t like death, and she couldn’t be with her animals if they had to be put down. She had difficulty accepting death.”
Another reason why she didn't want a funeral could be because she was described as a "very shy person". Being the world-famous celebrity that she was never changed her. “She never let her celebrity affect her and who she was, and she was always the little girl from Cincinnati who was extraordinarily talented and went out in the world and did what she loved to do despite herself,” said Bob Bashara. “She was guileless, and I had discussions with her about how popular she was, and she would say, ‘I don’t understand it’ about why she was so loved.”
The iconic actress had recently celebrated her 97th birthday last month, where about 300 fans came together and added to the joy in Carmel. Before she passed away, she left behind a legacy of world-acclaimed films in almost every genre. She was a natural at bringing out the emotion through her characters and her movies, Calamity Jane and Pillow Talk.
And her hit songs, Que Sera, Sera (Whatever Will Be, Will Be) still rings in the hearts of her fans.
For her, her talent was something given by God and she always remembered that as she used it. “She believed in God, and she thought her voice was God-given. She would say, ‘God gave me a voice, and I just used it,'” her manager and close friend, Bob Bashara told People.
Even though the fame never got to her head, Doris Day was still the iconic face of the industry. "For those of us in my generation, Doris Day was synonymous with Hollywood icon," tweeted George Takei, a Star Trek legend, according to Evening Standard. "She would no doubt remind us, upon this day of her passing, 'Que sera, sera', but we will miss her dearly anyway. Rest now in our hearts forever, Ms. Day."
But Doris Day has had her fair share of difficult moments. She went through three divorces and was left widowed once, as reported by BBC. Things became extremely tough for her that she was pushed to a mental breakdown and even had trouble after one of her husbands misused her finances.
Despite all the hardships, she kept going and never lost the kindness in her heart. She put in a lot of her effort into nurturing her animal foundation. Even though she didn't like to talk about death, she ensured that her dogs would be cared for. Bob Bashara said, “She had several when her will was written, and she wanted to be sure they were taken care of. She didn’t like to talk about the dogs dying.”
"Condolences to the family of Doris Day," said William Shatner. "She was the World’s Sweetheart and beloved by all. Que Será, Será!"
While she left at the age of 97, she will still live on in the hearts of her fans, and her movies and songs will never be forgotten.