"She was a wonderful mother, a wonderful person," a close friend said. "I have cried so much, I can’t cry anymore.”
Every single victim on the other side of the gun had the most horrifying last moments before they passed away in the Dayton shooting. While some may have died instantly, others may have laid there scared, tormented, horrified, and waiting as life gradually escaped their body. In the final moments of her life, one woman held on for a little bit longer to make one last call to the father of her children, giving him her final message to him and her dear children.
27-year-old Lois Oglesby was one among the innocent nine people who lost their lives on the streets of Dayton. Just 2 months before the dark day, Lois, who also went by the name of Lola, had given birth to her second child. In the state she was in, she made a FaceTime call to Daryl Lee, her partner at 1 am, according to the Daily Mail. “She FaceTimed me and said 'Babe I just got shot in my head, I need to get to my kids,'” he wrote on Facebook.
Her last thoughts were of her children and her partner, and she was desperate to let them know how much she loved them. The grieving partner wrote, "She was letting me know she loved me and to take care of these kids... I got you babe. I can't stop crying."
Her newborn baby girl, Reign and six-year-old daughter Hannah, are now left behind without their mother, as reported by Mirror. For Lois, it was the first outing she had with friends after she gave birth. But now, her girls, Reign and Hannah, are left with a loss that they’ll have to bear for the rest of their lives.
Like every other victim that was shot that day, Lois also had a life and a home to come back to that night. But what finally came home was the terrible news, “Lois got shot and she’s dead,” said her friend, Derasha Merrett who received the devastating message at 3 AM when she was up feeding her newborn.
“We grew up as cousins,” Derasha told Dayton Daily News. "We grew up in the same church, on the same drill team. She works at my kids’ daycare. We all grew up in this little town. We’re all family. We’re all hurting behind this."
Lois had just finished her maternity leave and Derasha was happy to see her return to her life in nursing school. "I was like, I’m so happy you’re back at work. Now I don’t have to worry about who has my newborn," she said. "She loves her kids unconditionally."
She still had so much of her life left to live, memories yet to be made with her kids, and a career where her love for children could thrive. "She was a wonderful mother, a wonderful person," Derasha said. "I have cried so much, I can’t cry anymore."
Lois was the daughter of LaSandra James, who works with the Miami Valley Community Action Partnership which has set up a fundraiser for Lois’ daughters. "LaSandra is completely overwhelmed by this tragedy," said Cherish L. Cronmiller, the organization’s president and CEO. "She wants everyone to know how much (Oglesby) loved her children, how much she wanted to provide for her children."
Through the grief, the thought of Lois’ little girls is the only shred of hope and LaSandra still hopes to give Reign and Hannah all that she possibly can. "LaSandra said it’ll be impossible to fill her daughter’s shoes," Cronmiller said. "She’s going to do everything she can to make sure those girls have the life they deserve."