What good is fun, if you cannot take a dig at your partner? Guess what, it's not just fun but also the best way to grow in love together as a couple.
We often wonder about relationships and the secret to a successful one. Many say it's commitment, trust, honesty... and on and on goes the long list. What we often miss in a relationship is a very small ingredient called humor. Believe it or not. It is more important than you think.
Let me put it this way, humor is the essence of a good, healthy relationship. The ability to take a dig at each other, to laugh and make your partner laugh will allow your relationship to blossom. The shinning couples of Hollywood like Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively, John Legend and Chrissy Teign are well known for their merciless trolls and Instagram stories on each other. The ability of these couples to joke around surely is indicative of their strong bond.
A study conducted by Jeffrey Hall from the University of Kansas found that couples who can poke fun at each other and have a laugh together are the happiest. Hall who has conducted almost 39 studies, involving over 15000 people over the years, has concluded that laughter is an essential part of a successful relationship.
However, don't be of the idea that if you are funny, your relationship will be a success. Rather, Hall explains that it is not the ability to make jokes individually that matters but the capability to create laughter together.
“People say they want a sense of humor in a mate, but that’s a broad concept. That people think you are funny or you can make a joke out of anything is not strongly related to relationship satisfaction. What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humor that couples create together,” says Hall.
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The ability to relate to each other's quirky sense of humor affirms the relationship you share through laughter.
According to Unilad, the researcher wrote in his article, Humor in Romantic Relationships, a Meta-Analysis that the playfulness between two partners helps in creating a stronger bond and also establishes security in the relationship.
He added that it indicates the romantic attraction that is shared by the partners in their relationship.
While poking fun at each other and enjoying each other's banter is healthy for relationships, it becomes dangerous if the limit is crossed. Pushing things too far than actually required can make a joke sound hurtful and insulting to the other person. Hall warns couples of poorly framed jokes and bad timing.
“Having an aggressive sense of humor is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humor is used in the relationship. If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely you’ve seen that firsthand in your relationship,” says Hall.
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Another Psychological study also backs up the claims made by Hall. The study published in the "Journal of Research in Personality," claims that people who fear being laughed at are found to be less happy in their relationships.
Not only does laughter make your relationship a success but it is also a great way to lighten up moods and ease tensions. Laughter being a great stress buster, allows the two partners to release tensions and accept each other's quirkiness.
So laugh more, pull each others legs, and stay happy together as a great couple!