The grandparents insisted on getting it done because they thought ‘she’d look so cute.’
Grandparents do have their own wishes when it comes to things they want to do for their grandchildren but some take matters into their own hands without taking into consideration if the child's parents are going to be okay with it or not. A man is now set on ensuring his daughter will never be left alone with his parents again after they got her ears pierced without his or his fiancee's permission.
The dad took to Reddit to ask if he and his fiancee were wrong to take such a decision. He wrote, “I and my fiancée (22m & 23f) had our baby girl Thalia and she just turned 9 months old. We basically decided it was gonna be up to Thalia when she’s older if she wants to get her ears pierced. Tbh I was never into the idea of it being done as a baby when they can’t consent, like my fiancée’s parents pierced her ears when she was a baby, and she always hated wearing earrings. Still doesn’t wear any. My parents didn’t shut up about it for a while saying ‘she’d look so cute.’ But we told them already no and that’s our answer.” He continues, “When they babysat for us once, they got one of my mom’s friends to do it, and we were fucking pissed they went behind our backs. We stopped talking to them after that for disrespecting our decision. Everyone was saying we were making a big deal and we can’t cut them out of their granddaughter’s life over something like that. So we decided they’re allowed to see Thalia only when one of us is around, and they won’t be left alone with her,” he wrote.
People refused to see the decision from their point of view and still held the opinion that the new parents were being harsh with the grandparents. He wrote, “That’s where everyone is still saying we’re being massive a-holes because we’re still punishing them over something that’s not a big deal and we’re treating them like children. Even my fiancées’ parents think that only letting them have supervised visits is too much and they should be allowed to babysit or have Thalia at their place alone like before.” However, Users on Reddit took the couple's side, “NTA (not the asshole). I wouldn’t be leaving my child with them ever again. My mum cut my daughter’s fringe and I lost it; this is another level altogether,” a user wrote, while another said, “What’s going to be next thing they decide they know better on? They’re lucky they’re even allowed to see her tbh.” A third commented, “NTA.Your parents behaved like children therefore they deserve to be treated as such. They broke your trust, went against your express wishes, and pretty much said, ‘We know better than you and what you think is irrelevant.’ I can’t get my head around why anyone would think you aren’t justified in your actions. (I hope you’ve taken the earrings out and have let the holes close over before they become permanent).”
Many Redditors pointed out that this might count as assault, “This is actually assault. If you had reported this to the police it would have been assault on a minor and they would have been in serious trouble,” a user wrote, while another commented, "Like I understand ear piercings are a really common and relatively harmless body modification, but I cannot get past the idea that the parents took someone else’s child and had some random idiot with a hot needle apply puncture wounds to that child’s body because they thought ‘it would look cute.’ Just imagine those puncture wounds were to any other part of that child’s body; that would be fucked up, right? Now keep imagining that because it doesn’t matter what part of the body it’s on, you can’t just stab someone else’s child. I don’t think you should even stab your own child; it should be their decision.”