Several studies have even proven that having grandparents in a kid's life greatly improves their life.
Getting to grow up with your grandparents around is something not a lot of children were lucky enough to experience. Irrespective of how firm they were in their upbringing of their own children, grandparents will always go the extra mile to bend the rules for their grandchildren. They will always have their favorite snacks and games around. And of course, there is the money they keep slipping to you before you leave their house. You will always leave your grandparents' home with a full stomach and with fully uplifted spirits. Several studies have even proven that having grandparents in a kid's life greatly improves their life.
The relationship is that of mutual benefits. As kids have another pair of people caring about their well-being, children, in turn, bring about a new cheer in the lives of grandparents. Kids with grandparents who are actively involved in their life seem to be happier than the average, as per studies. Here are several reasons why having grandparents involved in their grandchild's life would be a great idea.
In addition to parents, children will have two more people who care about them as their parents would. This support system will go a long way, especially during their formative years. Parents are busier than grandparents who may have chosen to take on a life of retirement and will have more time to spare for the children. “If parents regularly involve grandparents in their child’s life early on, a child can develop real emotional closeness to the grandparent and begin to see the grandparent as a source of strong social support,” Kimberly Agresta is co-founder of Englewood’s Agresta Psychotherapy Group told North Jersey. “So a child will feel that they have other adults, aside from their parents, who love and care about them in the same way, and this adds to their sense of stability and security.”
Professor Ann Buchanan from the Department of Social Policy and Intervention at the University of Oxford found that a high level of grandparental involvement increases the well-being of children. Children had fewer emotional and behavioral problems.
When grandparents have the company of their grandkids, it was found in a study that it actually seemed to reduce depressive symptoms. While the study also noted more frequent contact increased depressive symptoms, particularly with adult grandchildren. But it did find that greater affinity depressive symptoms were infrequent, for both grandparents as well as grandchildren. As they aged together they seemed to share a symbiotic relationship. Their interactions were mutually beneficial where the kids learned important life lessons and the grandparents were introduced to new ideas. Their cognitive abilities improve as well.
Having a healthy relationship with a grandparent can help kids understand generational differences. Having an older person they love and appreciate will let them know that discriminating against someone based on age is not okay. If the relationship grandparents and their grandkids share is healthy, the children are less likely to hold ageist views as opposed to if they share a poor relationship, as per Motherly. They will learn about empathy and responsibility from their grandparents as well. In return, the grandparents may also feel a few years younger at heart.
Grandparents have lived several decades more than their grandchildren. They have a wide range of experiences and life lessons that the children can learn from. Sara Moorman, an associate professor of sociology at Boston College told Boston Globe, “Grandparents have a wealth of experience — they’ll often tell stories about their lives and how things worked when they were young, and once kids become adults, they’re able to maximize those lessons.” Moorman, who has dedicated her study to her own grandmother says grandparents also can offer their grandchildren a first-hand historical perspective that can enrich their lives and understanding of the past.
Having seen it all, been there, and done that, grandparents can be a great source of encouragement to their grandkids. They can be a great source of perspective when kids confide in them their fears and insecurities. "Sometimes parents underestimate what their kids can learn. And for that reason, sometimes it takes a grandparent to bring out the best in your kids," said Nate Kornell, as per Psychology Today.