"I was in a state of shock," Jenna Dewan said. "One week I’d be doing really well and the next I was slammed with a whole new slew of emotions."
"...No one gets married to hopefully get divorced," Jenna Dewan said after her marriage of about nine years with Channing Tatum came to an end.
Ever since the pair met on the set of Step Up, they fell deeply in love and become one of Hollywood fans' most favorite couples. After years of dating and years of being married to each other, they announced that they were getting a divorce after more than a decade of being together.
"We have lovingly chosen to separate as a couple," Dewan wrote on Instagram when they announced their separation in 2018.
"We fell deeply in love so many years ago and have had a magical journey together. Absolutely nothing has changed about how much we love one another, but love is a beautiful adventure that is taking us on different paths for now. There are no secrets nor salacious events at the root of our decision—just two best-friends realizing it's time to take some space and help each other live the most joyous, fulfilled lives as possible. We are still a family and will always be loving dedicated parents to Everly."
Dewan wrote about the reason for their split in her book, Gracefully You: How to Live Your Best Life Every Day. "I’d come to realize the dynamic I was in wasn’t serving me nor was it serving my daughter. First and foremost I had to accept the realization this isn’t working and had moved into hurting," she wrote, as quoted by People.
"The public saw Channing and I in this idealized romanticized light. This made things difficult for me because I like being as honest and real as I can."
There was no one single incident that pulled Dewan and Tatum as she revealed they had been growing distant for a while. However, the pain of separation still affected Dewan as she never imagined, when she fell in love with Tatum, that their relationship would end this way.
"I always say no one gets married to hopefully get divorced," Dewan told People. "People grow and they change and sometimes they don’t grow and change together. So it wasn’t a overnight thing that happened. There was no one event. I think it was just a slow realization that we wanted different things."
After being with Tatum since their marriage in 2009, Dewan was in shock when their relationship fell apart and things only became worse when she started finding out about Tatum haven't moved on so quickly.
"In the beginning of my separation, it felt as though I were in a dark closet, desperately trying to find the light or the way out," she wrote about divorce, according to HuffPost. "I was in a state of shock. One week I’d be doing really well and the next I was slammed with a whole new slew of emotions."
She felt "blindsided" when she found out on the internet that Tatum started dating singer, Jessie J. "I was learning things about my ex most people wouldn’t have to face ― and over the internet, as it was happening,” the actress wrote.
"There I was, on a plane, alone, finding out about his new relationship. I felt blindsided. Choosing grace as I learned everything about my personal situation along with the rest of the world was really difficult."
Eventually, the dust settled and both Dewan and Tatum were able to cope with how life changed after their divorce. And through it all, their daughter, who was born to them in 2013, remained on top on their priority list, People reported. Dewan also got into a relationship with actor Steve Kazee.
Talking about how things became better, Dewan revealed, "It wasn’t easy necessarily, to get here, which nothing is easy in life, right? I had to put in the work. This doesn’t just happen overnight. But just to know that it’s possible, and your perspective on life can change. It can change for the better, and you’ll be fine."
When she spoke about things between her and Tatum, she said, "We’re all aware that it’s a new normal, we’re all getting used to it. You can still have a relationship and just because the forms change as to who you are to each other, it doesn’t take away from the love that we had or that we shared all those years."