"I would rather have that peace of mind knowing she found a dress that isn't matching mine," the bride wrote
The last thing one should be doing is trying to recreate their own wedding at someone else's or trying to upstage the bride, this mother-in-law seems to be set on doing both. Mirror UK reported that an unnamed bride took to Reddit to share her story where she explains that she is wearing a dress that combines shades of ivory, blush and white to get married in and as such. She sent her mother-in-law these colours, specifically asking her to avoid wearing them on the big day and a few suggestions for colours that would compliment her complexion instead. However, it seems like the mother-in-law didn't take it quite well and instead decided to do the opposite.
The bride was left fuming when she got to know that her mother-in-law was planning to wear a wedding dress for their ceremony. "Let me start with I told this lady MONTHS ago what colours not to wear. I told her what colours would look nice on her and with her complexion. She decides to use that information to only want to wear a dress within the colour range of my just no list. She was saying how she wants to wear those colours and if she can't wear the colour JNcolor1, her back up option was JNcolor2. Then she found something that is going to match the wedding party, which I already told her she should stand out not blend in with the wedding party," the woman wrote.
She then explains what happened after she got to know about her mother-in-law's plans, "When the talk doesn't go her way she starts reaching out to our BIL/SIL in hopes they would tell her I'm wrong and she should wear what she wants. Which wrong they explained exactly what I told her. DONT WEAR THOSE COLOURS. She also said, 'oh well I guess it will be a surprise'," she said. We can assume that the woman and her partner probably tried to talk to the mother but it seems like the conversation didn't go well as the bride has since made a follow-up post. "I honestly thought my previous post was going to be my last post about this issue. We are weeks away from our wedding and MIL still has not found a dress. She has been calling other family members asking for their opinion on different dresses and most are bridal looking or in the just no shade range that I discussed with her," she wrote.
The bride says that her mother-in-law has since shown off two possible dresses she might wear, one a floor-length blush-coloured gown and the other a sparkly gown that looks like a wedding dress. "Y'all the picture of the dress she sent, the mannequin had a veil on. My BIL told her absolutely not. She then started screaming at him about how it's impossible to find a dress in the limited amount of colours we gave her. He told her it's not that hard and to chill out. My fiance and I called her when my BIL texted us and tried to have a conversation with her. She immediately began raising her voice telling us she wasn't going to talk about what she's wearing with us. It's not up for discussion then HANGS UP ON US," she wrote.
"My fiance has been incredibly supportive and told me that she doesn't have to be at our wedding and if she refuses to show us a dress then he will tell her she's not coming. He wanted to wait until the day before our wedding to see the dress but it's honestly not something I want to think about up until the day of our wedding. I would rather have that peace of mind knowing she found a dress that isn't matching mine," she further said.
Many users sympathized with the bride and showed their support, "If it helps you relax more till the wedding, my MIL wore black (including a hat with a birdcage veil and gloves - total funeral garb) to my wedding, and I'm the only one who remembers without looking back at photos," one wrote while another said, "It’s 'too hard' to find a dress in the proper colours? Oh please. My son proposed in December. The wedding was in May. She asked the moms to wear either brown or orange. So, autumn colours to be shopped for in winter and early spring. Guess what? All the moms and grandmas were able to find dresses in those colours without a whole lot of trouble. If we can do it, so can your MIL."
A third shared, "A bride found out MIL was going to wear white and couldn’t be dissuaded, so she put all her bridesmaids in white and her mother in white and herself (the bride) in blush pink. MIL found out when she came swanning in, in literally a white wedding dress, that she just blended in with everyone else instead of looking like a co-bride."