After the dinner that ran out before everyone could eat, the maid of honor approached a few of the guests, showed them a stack of dirty dishes, and asked them to wash it.
Weddings are an expensive affair. To pull off a well-organized wedding that the bride and groom are happy with and guests find satisfactory is a feat. There are many ways weddings can be memorable. But not having enough food to feed the guests, who are then asked to do the dishes, is definitely not the best way to do that. One wedding guest remembers the wedding alright, but not fondly. They took to Reddit to share the case of "Self-catering, or how to get all your guests to wash dishes at your wedding."
User Kidpixthrowaway shared the story of a relative of theirs who got married a few years ago. "The bride (a relative of mine) and groom have gone all out, renting a gorgeous and expensive venue for their wedding," they wrote in the post. "Beautiful ceremony, lovely pictures, etc. The buffet line and tables have been set up on the screened porch of the building. Food looks great, I serve up my plate and go sit down." The user then explained how their boyfriend at the time, who is now their husband, had gone to the restroom where there were long lines. "He then comes back to the table with an empty plate. When I asked why he says there’s no more food," the post read.
The user went on to say, "Okay, no problem. I find the bride’s mom and whisper that she should probably ask the caterers to put out more food. She gets a peculiar expression on her face and says there is no more food. What was on the buffet line is all that they have. Period." It turns out the bride and groom had spent most of their money on the venue and the bride’s couture gown. So they were forced to “self cater,” which meant that one of their family friends who was a chef had volunteered to cook food for the wedding. And the limited budget was then spent on quality instead of quantity.
"They wanted a certain 'opulence' so they purchased top-of-the-line ingredients (good cuts of meat, artisan bread, and cheeses, etc.) which meant they ended up with only enough to feed about 3/4 of the guests. The rest went hungry," the user explained. After dinner was done, just before the reception the maid of honor approached a few of the guests and asked them to follow her to the kitchen. The kitchen did not have an air conditioner and was burning up on that June evening. "She shows us stacks of plates and cups and then tells us we need to wash them," the user wrote incredulously.
Because they were self-catering, they had to rent the dishes and glassware that had to be returned clean at the end of the evening. Failing which they would lose their deposit. "But since the bride and groom are pinching pennies at this point, they haven’t hired anyone to clean up. So I and about nine other guests spend most of the reception in the kitchen, elbow-deep in soap and water," the user said. "We miss the first dance and the cutting of the cake, which turns out to be for the best because (wait for it) they hadn’t purchased enough cake for everyone either." They concluded the post by saying that the couple divorced three years later and added, "I declined my invitation to the bride’s second wedding."
Redditors were in disbelief. One user wrote: That is INSANE. Imagine inviting a bunch of folks, then having the gall to tell them 1/4 of them will DELIBERATELY be left hungry. Including cake! Others were angry on behalf of the person who posted and said they would not have been as nice and washed the dishes. LucyLovesApples wrote: I would’ve told the mother no, family or not. I would’ve also made excuses to leave early because my SO hadn’t eaten.