The way they smile, hold your hands, kiss you, all of these can tell how close they are to you. Body language signs are the easiest way to understand the thoughts of your partner.
We might have been with our partner for years but not all of us can understand what our partner is thinking. As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words, and same holds true for body language and just how comfortable you are around each other. More often than not, this is a bigger indicator of how strong or weak a relationship is than what mere words can express.
But how can you tell? Well, the answer here is body language. body language refers to nonverbal signals displayed through our facial expressions and body movements that often communicate large amounts of information without our knowledge. Sometimes we are not even aware that our partner is slowly moving away from us or is affected by a comment we made. Being able to read these physical gestures can help you understand a lot about each other without having to verbally express it.
If your partner extends their hand to hold yours, there is definitely more connection and love than you think. According to Women's Health, “Touch symbolizes intimacy, emotional closeness, and happiness in a relationship,” says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., professor and author. A lot can also be understood in the way your partner holds your hand. “Most people have a radius of about a foot and a half around us that is our personal space and if you let someone into that it indicates intimacy,” says Orbuch. Couples who walk close to each other, holding hands fully clasped show that they are more happy and close than other couples.
If your partner tends to walk a step ahead of you, it might not be a very healthy sign. It can mean that the two people in the relationship do not function as a team. However, it is also important to note the circumstances in which the couples are. “A lot of times men let women into a room first, or on to a line first, or in front of them if they’re walking somewhere single file, and that’s a sign of respect and caring,” says Orbuch. But in most cases, if your partner seems to forge ahead, they might not be viewing you as an equal partner in the relationship.
Regardless of where you are, your partner always keeps their hand over your shoulder. It is a loving gesture that shows the affection of your partner. “They’re trying to be more physically close to you by drawing you into them,” says Orbuch. Your partner wants you to be closer to them physically and wants to eliminate any gap between. It indicates your partner feels connected to you on a more deeper level and can also be a sign of emotional attachment shown by your partner.
You might be walking into a room full of your peers, your partner prefers to have their arms around your waist. By doing this, they might be sending out a message, telling how possessive they are of you. Your partner in such a situation is establishing their ownership over you. “If you could walk into a room separately, but I don’t let you, it can be possessive or possibly show that I’m insecure and don’t want to be on my own. There’s a fine line between possessive and insecure,” says Orbuch.
This gesture has given rise to two schools of thoughts. While some think it is a power move, referring to the position and status the person has in the relationship, others think it is a sign of comfort and closeness. “But it can also be a sign of caring, comfort, and emotional closeness. You’re reaching out to that person and symbolically helping them up or into a room in a positive way."
This gesture from your partner may put your relationship in question as this is mostly seen as a non-romantic hand gesture. It can be surprising if your partner keeps opting to pat your back than giving you an intimate embrace. It can immediately be looked at as a friendly relationship than a romantic one.