“[Date night is] the same as it’s been throughout our marriage,” said Kirk Douglas. “We spend what we call the ‘golden hour’ together at around 6:30 each night."
To laugh and talk every single day, after living 202 years combined, is something they never dreamed they would do. But 102-year-old Kirk Douglas and 100-year-old Anne Buydens are forever grateful to have had the chance to spend 65 years of their life married to each other and still have so much more to say to each other.
Just like they did when they were younger, they still have date night every day. “[Date night is] the same as it’s been throughout our marriage,” said Kirk Douglas. “We spend what we call the ‘golden hour’ together at around 6:30 each night. We’ll sit and talk and laugh and share our day and our thoughts with each other."
But before they went on to live one of the most touching stories of love, Anne Buydens actually refused to go out with him when they first met. “Of course, he was charming and sexy, but I had seen too many young women in Paris fall in love with American movie stars who went home to their lives and wives when their pictures wrapped,” she said, according to kirkdouglas.com. “I certainly didn’t want to be another location romance casualty.”
So, when Kirk Douglas asked her if she wanted to go out with him to a fancy, romantic restaurant in Paris, when they first met in 1953, Budyens said, "No, I think I’ll stay in and have some scrambled eggs.” But Kirk Douglas revealed that seeing her unimpressed by him made him "determined to win her over", according to Los Angeles Times. Eventually, she gave in, but things weren't easy because Kirk Douglas was engaged at the time. Anne Buydens said, “When things got a little too warm between us, he’d say ‘Don’t forget, I’m engaged.’ I said ‘I won’t forget.’"
But one fine day, when she was frustrated with how things were going, she decided to leave because he was an engaged man, and watching her pack her bags was the moment Kirk Douglas realized that he would be "lost without her", according to The Telegraph. They got married in May 1954 and ever since then, he gave her decades and decades of love and happiness.
The many affairs Kirk Douglas had with other women, including some Hollywood starlets at the time, are no secret. But what kept them going for so long was two qualities that Anne Buydens believes was their secret. “Trust and honesty are two of the qualities I find essential in marriage,” Anne Buydens wrote to Fox News.
“I told him right from the start that I needed to hear from him directly if he was having or had had a fling. And since he can’t keep a secret, he always has — none of them serious and usually when he was lonely and on location without me.” However, Budyens viewed it differently because, "as a European, I understood it was unrealistic to expect total fidelity in a marriage."
But when they were together, they were fully committed to each other. Anne Buydens said, “I loved my husband and my life and our family, so why would I give all that up because of pride? We are together because we love and respect each other and share the same values.” She has no regrets from her marriage and is grateful for every experience it has put her through, because she had Kirk Douglas to share it with.
She said, “After 60 years of marriage, you go through a lot of obstacles — and all of them are beautiful,” according to Woman's World. In one of the many letters he wrote to Anne Buydens, he said, “If I live to be 100, there will still be so many things unsaid.”
According to The New York Jewish Week, he later said, “As I have now reached that milestone, I can attest that it is still true.” After all these years together, he still can't stop loving every conversation and every laugh he shares with Anne Buydens.