Stars Who Speak About Domestic and Emotional Abuse: Amber Heard Opens Up About Surviving A "Monster"

Stars Who Speak About Domestic and Emotional Abuse: Amber Heard Opens Up About Surviving A "Monster"

She refuses to stay silent and won't see herself as a victim, but is a survivor who is urging people to step forward and stand up for themselves.

When you fall madly in love with someone, you feel your entire world changing and you completely relinquish control to, and it's a feeling you like. But when the one you love suddenly turns into your worst nightmare, you still have no control and you experience the worst things about being in an abusive relationship.

Amber Heard, actress and ambassador on women’s rights at the American Civil Liberties Union, revealed the painful experience she had when she allegedly suffered physical and verbal abuse at the hands of her ex-husband, Johnny Depp, and she strongly urges women not to remain silent about what they're going through. "Like many women, I had been harassed and sexually assaulted by the time I was of college age. But I kept quiet — I did not expect filing complaints to bring justice. And I didn’t see myself as a victim," she wrote in an article for The Washington Post.

But this was before she became a public figure.


Once she got married Heard claims she saw her husband turn into a "monster", leaving her with traumatizing experiences. But when she came out with her side of the story, Heard says she finally understood why some people stop themselves from even admitting the abuse that they're going through. "When a woman comes forward to speak about her suffering, about injustice, instead of aid, respect and support, she will be met with hostility, skepticism, and shame. Her motives will be questioned and her truth will be ignored," Heard read out in a letter at the #MeToo Anniversary Event.

“It’s no wonder that so many of us feel that we have to keep quiet or keep our own safety to try to maintain our dignity by quietly enduring... It isn’t easy to raise your voice, to stand up for yourself and your truth and to do it alone, but our world is changing. Standing shoulder to shoulder as women, we comprise a vast army of voices and we can no longer accept silence,” she said, according to Variety.

Despite being the one who needed help, the 33-year-old said the entire world was trying to protect the extravagant image of her husband. "Friends and advisers told me I would never again work as an actress — that I would be blacklisted. A movie I was attached to recast my role. I had just shot a two-year campaign as the face of a global fashion brand, and the company dropped me," she wrote.

She also said, "I had the rare vantage point of seeing, in real time, how institutions protect men accused of abuse."


By talking about her experience, Heard highlighted how toxic people abuse their partners and then hide the truth behind their fame. "Imagine a powerful man as a ship, like the Titanic. That ship is a huge enterprise," she wrote. "When it strikes an iceberg, there are a lot of people on board desperate to patch up holes — not because they believe in or even care about the ship, but because their own fates depend on the enterprise."

"I felt the full force of our culture’s wrath for women who speak out," Heard wrote. But she refuses to see herself as a victim because she wants to be a survivor so that others, too, will come forward and report abuse rather than continue to suffer. She said “...I have attempted to promote good in the world and to advocate an end to domestic violence. I have sought to use my public persona to speak out on an issue that was extremely meaningful to me and millions of other women and men every year," she said as reported by Page Six.

When she spoke Brooklyn Saturday, the actress said that it was her "right" to speak up about it and it's one of the things she's proud of herself for doing. “I’m proud of my movies, I’m proud of the things I’ve done. But it is nothing in comparison to the pride I feel for the things I have stood up for because they were right. And not only did I do it because they were right and because they were true, I did it despite what it cost me,” she said, according to HuffPost.

By standing up for herself and boldly talking about the experiences she had in her life, she's inspiring people everywhere to never hesitate in speaking about what they're going through. She ended her article by saying "We can work together to demand changes to laws and rules and social norms — and to right the imbalances that have shaped our lives."